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3:29pm, February 8, 2009
My husbands father died last night.
It was kind of unexpected but kind of not.He has been in the hospital for the last 3 weeks with a foot infection(DIabetes).
He coded on the way to dialysis and was put on a respirator, his wife took him off it last night. He had no quality of life and it was the best for him but it doesnt make it hurt my husband any less.
I dont know if any one really knows but some of you do, My husbands family and I dont get along, and they are a big reason we moved away from them.
They are controlling , demanding unkind people. I dont get them, aND i DONT KNOW HOW MY HUSBAND CAME FROM THAT EVIL THING OF A MOTHER HE HAS BUT THAT IS BESIDES the point. Sorry about the caps, hit the button.
The most outrageous thing of all of this, they are not having a service or a funeral or anything. WHAT???????
They are going to have him cremated and then they are going to have a picnic.
Does anyone else see something wrong with this??!!
My poor husband doesnt know what to do, he is thinking of going home for a few days during the week to take care of what he needs to and say goodbye to his dad and come home.
I dont think he is real keen on the stupid picnic deal either.
The kids and I will not be going, due to the stress and the fact that we dont get along, my husband doesnt need the extra stress, we have talked about this, and he knows it is best for hm to go alone. He wants me there but knows it would be bad so.............
I have seen my husband cry , at our wedding, the day we had our babies, and a few sobs in arguments we have had over the years, but I have never seen this huge, 6ft 3, 300 pd man sit and full blown sobbing gut wrenching crying like last night.
Men are supposed to be made of steel or something arent they?? It was so hard to watch him hurt so bad. I felt so helpless standing there holding him. He is my rock, he is supposed to be so strong and invincible. I dont know what to say to him, it breaks my heart to know he is hurting and all I can do is be here if he needs me.
I know we all say it is good to see men cry, it shows they have feelings and emotions, but it is also scary, at least to me.
I love him so much, I hate that he is hurting so bad, and his family is such a mess!
I dont really know what else to say....................
maybe I will later.......
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My deepest condolences on the loss of your
father-in-law. I loss my father less than two
months ago so I truly can understand how
difficult it is. with support and friendship, Ida.
universe
Awwwwww hun.....I am so sorry! I will be praying for ya and your hubby....ya know....I am a lil blown by the picnic thing myself????? I think that your hubby is entitled to his closure with his father's death....how could they take that from him? I am here if ya wanna chat...I am like you.....so lost for words....hugs hun......I am so sorry....
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