Monte's Journal

I wasn`t going to write anything because of the pain that this issue causes me . My Mom has alzheimers and at first you could tell years ago that something was wrong but Mom and Dad don`t like going to doctors so it never got addressed until I moved back to my home town and actually saw what it was doing to here first hand. My Dad hasn`t helped much either because he would rather believe in "Snake Oil Salesmen " than in doctors. That all stems from when he was a kid and broke his leg and his parents took him to some country "Quack" and set his leg but never addressed that after they took off the cast he was having pain from his ankle that was also dislocated in the bicycle wreck that broke his leg . He finally got a chiropractor to look at his foot and he pooped it back in place . Since then he has little or no use for doctors . Any how back to my Mom , the damage has been done and can`t be fixed , and it is so hard seeing some one that taught Sunday School and read her Bible every day no matter how many times she had read it through . She has always been the rock that has stood the test of time and two boy`s that seemed to always be at each other (mostly picking at eacvh other). I don`t know what to do , I have been trying to get it through to my Dad that she is not trying to be this way but last week he almost left her and just walked off after 56 years of marrage. If I had not shown up at thier house when I did he would have been gone. He was walking out the door when I got there .

My Mom and I have always been close and it is tearing me up inside to see her in this way . And what is makes it worse is that it could have been slowed down if it had been treated sooner(maybe), the doctors aren`t really sure but that is what they are saying with a GREAT BIG MAYBE . What could have been done or should have been done is not what I care about , I just want for my Mom to be better . The doctor has suggested that we place her in a assisted living home but there are only two of those here , one that we know about and it is a very good place (we had Brenda`s Dad there until he got kicked out for throwing things  at the staff ) and then there is the other one that we haven`t heard much about except that the man that runs the very good one got this one `s owner to start it so it may or may not be as good or it could be better ,Just don`t know . I do know that the nursing homes here are very bad ,I wouldn`t put my worst enemy in one of those they are really that bad . I don`t know how they keep thier license , you can walk in the front door and tell that they don`t care for any of the people that are there . It shows from house keeping all the way to the people in charge , they are just that sloppy and don`t care attitude about them .