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5boys 
1:54am, October 26, 2009
I think God is giving me enough ups so the downs don't kill us! It almost feels like a tease though, because just when I feel like we have a handle on part of it, the rug gets slipped out again. My son told me today that when he is doing math it feels like he is a baby being told to build a building and if he doesn't get it right somebody will stab him with a knife. :( What a miserable way to feel. I interpreted it as though he feels so much pressure to do well, even though he knows it is impossible for him to understand the concepts. We talked today for over an hour about how he is feeling. He said he is tired of not having any friends and he said that he wishes he just did well and enjoyed school like his brothers. It broke my heart, but I tried to just be here and listen. I didn't even really know how to comfort him. What a bunch of CRAP!! I am soo frustrated. I get upset with him on his bad days because I see all that NEEDS to be done, and nothing I say or do brings his brain back. Some days he is proficient and independant and confident and BRILLIANT. Other days I feel like I have lost him. And I can see he feels the same way. How hard do I push? What are the right things to say? Should I back off and let his grades suffer if it means he can take this diagnosis in stride? So many questions, so little time... I only know that I can't give up. He is my world and I would lay my life down for him.
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Hey 5boys. The only advice I can give is something I read in a book. I think it was called "the difficult child." Or maybe it was just one of the love and logic books. Anyway, it said that as a parent, you should focus on your child's strengths, whatever they are, and have minimal expectations for the areas they are weaker in. So if their strengths are sports, focus on that, but expect at least a C average in school. When they feel confident that they CAN do something that pleases you, and that is right, they may feel more motivated to work harder in the areas where they struggle. Anyway, I hope this helps.
tiger61378
I can relate to your frustration, I feel the same, It is hard when you have other children that seem to do so well and then your son has such struggles, my son does as well he also sees the differance and it makes him question things and ask me questions I'm not sure how to answer, but I do know he enjoys basketball and he shines when he plays, so I encourage him and praise him to play this sport and he feels like for once he is good at something and people are not going to punish him or tell him hes not doing it right, I encourage you to find out what your son enjoys and is good at and let him shine. Hugs to you and your son,I will pray for you both :)
jeanniemomof3