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firefly1960 
1:21am, November 7, 2009
It was brought to my attention that I need to quit moping. So I guess I will not write anything in my journal online anymore. I didn't mean to hurt anyone more or offend anyone. I was just getting my feelings out. all of you who have supported me thank you so much you are all so kind and helpful Love to you all~Julie
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IMo it is your Journal to write what you wish - I am sure it is therapy for you so by all means you ought not stop :) Hugs to you
NormaMc
If someone told you that you were moping they have never lost a child. Do not listen to them...delete them as a friend if you want...but here is a place to come and express yourself. You may want to only accept friends that are moms that have lost a child...for others do not understand. WE understand and will never tell you to "get over it" OR anything like that....because you can't. Your loss is so recent and the pain is soooo intense....feel what you feel and write what you want. Love to you...Karen
biowoman
Thank you Karen and NormaMc. I am probably just too sensitive right now. I have been weak which is not normal for me. I am a manager of a hugh department in a retail store. And am usually pretty tough. Until now. This has knocked me to my knees and I am having a tough time dealing with the emotions. This is my journal and it is my feelings. I hope they get better. I draw this hope from the journals I have read. Thanks again to all who are here to help others to learn how to cope. I hope one day I can bring hope to someone who needs it. love to you all~Julie
firefly1960
I certainly hope my last comment hasn't implied that you were moping. I think moping is warranted and I certainly do my share. I entered a comment on your last journal to perhaps encourage you to see your blessings. Sometimes it's too soon to fully realize what we still have when our hearts are broken. I know you are aware of the blessings that remain in your life. Those will certainly never replace your child, but I do pray they bring you comfort. I'm sorry if someone else was insensitive or if I may have been that person. Love to you. Robin
Robin4
If moping is having your heart broken into a million pieces, having your world totaly destroyed,having such intense unbearable pain, you can hardly breathe,then I guess all mothers that have lost a child is moping.Evidently this person has not ever lost a child. I read the nasty post that she wrote.Please keep writing, scream, yell, kick, whatever you need. All the mothers on this board are here for you. Take care of yourself, remember, to live minute by minute.Sending Love and Prayers Tammy
wenwensmom
you keep writing, I wish I had the courage to keep a journal. You are in my heart and I wish you strength to get through another night. Whoever wrote the nasty post should hang their head in shame.. pain doesn't give you the right to hurt others
NormaMc
Thanks because I have found comfort here and without it I might have curled up and just gave in to my grief.
firefly1960
Robin thatnks my dear. it was nothing you said, your words bring me hope. i don't mean to bring people down I just am getting it all out. Thanks and Love to You~Julie
firefly1960
I am so sorry if someone made you feel like you could not express yourself here... this is what this site is for and without it we would all be in a different place in our grief.. you have the worst thing in the world happen to you and please please keep writing and let us know how you are feeling.. if we know we can support and help you.. love to you and please be good to yourself today..
munrogirl
I read the mean comment that made you feel this way. If I were you, I would block this person. I have seen two of her posts on your journals that showed a complete lack of understanding of what you are going through. You don't need someone like that saying cruel things to you. This person may think they can 'snap' you out of your grief, but they are wrong and the end result is cruel.
Take care,
Sus
Soosanah
I will never stop "moping" for my sweet Nathan. If I want to have a pitty party everyday, I will. I feel wounded, physically and mentally, and some days you just can't get through it! Shame on them for their callous words. I'm moping today as a matter of fact. I don't want to get up and go. I want to quit work, crawl in my closet and set there forever with my memories. Please keep writing. All of you inspire me everyday with your words. Bless you, sweet Nathans mom.
sweetnathan