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froggiez2 
1:19pm, November 15, 2009
So he calls me again last night and at first is really quiet, I sat there thinking why did you call if you dont have anything to say....so I ask him whats wrong and why he is so quiet....he said he just doesn't know what to say.....I never get that...he is the one who called me, he must of had something to say right? So finally he tells me he is scared to come home, that he doesn't want it to be like it was before, but how will he know if he doesn't come home and try.....the he tells me how unstable he is.....it just gets so frustrating....
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UGH... mine says the same thing. "I just know it wouldn't work, and it would be like last time"... and I say, "how do you know if you don't try". They are just so confused and want to pull us in to their confusion with them. It's like the old saying "misery loves company."
lr78571
Its funny, my husband and I always went through the same ol, same ol......he could predict what i would say or what i would do, and it always ended up the same way. Once i showed him that i really didn't care anymore, because he really did suck the life out of me...things changed.....i stop calling when he was out....he didn't answer phone anyway, and when i was out he never called.....but if he did, i always answered....now its so different.....i don't call him, even now (we haven't really argued since I joined this site)and when we do, we are both very quick to resolve it..... but i don't answer his call...and he calls and calls.....so he has a taste of the rejection .....yes, it's rejection when i call and he didn't answer....so i really did give up, not on purpose but my spirit gave up on him,,,,,i did get closer to the Lord and i find that i am much happier and in return so is he....doesn't make sense, but changes from our patterns have to be made, because they know our patterens.....they need a curve ball....... love you girls :-)
claimvictory
He even admits he is unstable. Wow. Since he needs to be stable before anything can truly improve ... no coming home for him.
Stick to your guns froggiez2. Make him do the work and prove he is worthy of you.
ImDealing
I told him last night I was done playing games....like LR said how will he know if he doesn't try....and ya know what its time for him to stop blaming me....I am not to blame here, I may have not handled this illness like I should have, but neither has he....I took my rings off and put them away again, and this time they are off....no going back until I see changes and I mean better changes. At some point he has to stop using this illness as an excuse....it used to work with me before but not anymore, I have learned way more than I ever thought I would from this site......he has to do this...not me....I AM NOT TO BLAME
froggiez2
You've never been to blame. It is the illness that controls him that is to blame. Only when he owns up to it, accepts the responsibility personally and takes back control of himself will he ever fully realize that.
Kuup37
My experience is identical to claimvictory. I went away without him this weekend and he texted me, usually i text him and wait several hours for a reply, he also actually asked how my weekend was. I did not ask him about his as this is the treatment i usually get. They do like to be in total control and i think it is a great security blanket for them to know you are at home worrying about them. Its a whole different ball game if they dont know where you are. Froggy it may be good for you to be "really sorry but cant talk right now, i have friends over", to have him scurrying home as fast as he can. If you stop dancing his dance then maybe he will dance yours xx
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