Anger and Anxiety
October 7, 2009 2:35am
As survivors we've had to become familiar with the fight or flight instinct and for many of us whether survivor or not, anger and fear are very …
NakomaNariko
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About Me
NakomaNariko
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About Me
For those that know Myers-Briggs I'm an INFJ who only scores the highest in Introversion. While definitely an NF the numbers are a bit closer to each other, but the closest call seems to be on the J and P function. For those that know The Enneagram I'm Type Four, five wing and I have instinctual variant sp/so.
For those that know Myers-Briggs I'm an INFJ who only scores the highest in Introversion. While definitely an NF the numbers are a bit closer to each other, but the closest call seems to be on the J and P function. For those that know The Enneagram I'm Type Four, five wing and I have instinctual variant sp/so.
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Humanistic Psychology, Transpersonal Psychology, Interfaith and Theology, Buddhism, Sociology, Cultures, Subcultures, Equal Rights Advocacy, Nonviolent Communication, mediation, peace, empathy, intelligent conversations, Volunteering, Natural Health, Natural skincare, Natural Cleaners, Psychoneuroimmunology, Nutrition, Nature/Environment, Art, Music, Walking, social entrepreneurship, etc.
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Hello new member,
I'm StillBill and I founded this group for people like you who
always seem to feel alone
and I hate the thought of anyone feeling like their all alone out there
it's not a fun world most of the time for me and I have learned that most of the rest of these 40+ members feel the same .
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So know this,
I won't let you feel alone , I'll be here (unless I too fall down in dispair ) . . .
then you or someone can lift me up out of the darkness . . . one more time.
We, all of us fall so often, and dysthymia is a thief in the night
with no mercy, an unwelcome companion.
But however bad it may get for you
always remember
you can come to this place
and seek comfort.
you will always have a friend here.
I promise.
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Support Groups
Close Sexual Abuse
I am a childhood sexual assault survivor with all male perpetrators and instances of both incest and acquaintance rape. I have no clue when it started, but the earliest that I remember is 6 and it ended when I was 13.
Treatments
- Art Somewhat Helpful
- I was reluctant to do this at first because I had been trained that you *must* be good. A good therapist will allow all forms of creation no matter what the quality and what you make. This is a good way to build trust with your therapist especially if you don't want to talk about what happened at first. As much as I love art and think that it's very healing-creating and looking at it-in the healing journey (at least mine) I think it's something that helps temporarily.
- EMDR Working / Worked
- This never feels like it does much, because it's very subtle, however it is the only thing that has ever been an actual means to an end for me when it comes to healing trauma. My favorite are the "tappers" you hold in your hands.
- Group Therapy Considering
- Massage Working / Worked
- Sometimes I recoil from touch and sometimes I feel an intense skin deprivation. If I find a massage therapist that feels safe, is respectful and is someone that I can build trust with then a massage can be very healing.
- Music Somewhat Helpful
- Sometimes singers who sing about sexual abuse can help-sometimes not in the cases where I heard those songs in childhood. Instrumental or new age music can be more soothing.
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Perhaps the root of all healing-even massage-and I think that when a friend gave me 1st degree was when I really began to heal.
- Talking Working / Worked
- Ironically my parents first asked me if I had been sexually abused. I told 'em and they didn't like what I had to say and denied all of it. I went on a search to be believed. This was really difficult at first, but there is so much power in letting the secret out. I talked to everyone about it who would listen. I spread my story to the extent that I felt comfortable. I wrote in online forums. I joined other online support groups. I told all of my friends. I went to Take Back The Night rallies.
- Writing Working / Worked
- Patience Working / Worked
- Crying Working / Worked
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Helping Others Somewhat Helpful
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Somewhat Helpful
- Martial Arts Working / Worked
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Meditation Somewhat Helpful
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- Love Working / Worked
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Listening Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Close Seasonal Affective Disorder
Treatments
- Crying Somewhat Helpful
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- Phototherapy Working / Worked
- Being outside in the sun is the cheapest, but in the snowy winter not the easiest. I'd rather just stay in bed, reach over and switch on one of those nifty sun lamps.
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Dancing Working / Worked
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Music Therapy Working / Worked
- Socializing Working / Worked
- Playing Sports Working / Worked
- Pets Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Art Working / Worked
- Love Working / Worked
- Acupuncture Considering
- Willpower Somewhat Helpful
- Education (School) Somewhat Helpful
- Sleep Somewhat Helpful
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Walking Working / Worked
- Yoga Working / Worked
- Earn Money Working / Worked
- Massage Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- 5-HTP Considering
- Laughter Working / Worked
- Valerian Considering
- Aromatherapy Working / Worked
- B-Complex Vitamins Working / Worked
- Memory Foam Mattress Working / Worked
Open Physical & Emotional Abuse
Treatments
- Al-Anon Somewhat Helpful
- CoDA Somewhat Helpful
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- Tai Chi Working / Worked
- Martial arts in general I think is great for anyone who has experienced any abuse but especially physical abuse. I'm aware that other schools incorporate both internal and external but as an abuse survivor who'd be triggered in situations where I would practice attacking or defending Ive aimed for more internal martial arts. In the Yang aspect not the Yang school ( I don't think) Tai Chi will teach the self defense aspect Pushing Hands
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- Writing Working / Worked
- Patience Working / Worked
- Crying Working / Worked
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Helping Others Somewhat Helpful
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Playing Sports Somewhat Helpful
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Meditation Somewhat Helpful
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Leave Considering
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Somewhat Helpful
- Art Somewhat Helpful
- Love Working / Worked
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Reflexology Working / Worked
- Feldenkrais Considering
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Personality Disorders
Type: Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)I would categorize myself as more low-functioning. I actually don't fit the DSM criteria one hundred percent for BPD. I used that one as an excuse for quite a while. Other favorite excuses: I'm only in my mid-twenties. I've only had two love relationships in my life. No, no-it's my mother who has it-not me. I'm only someone who has it a little bit-I'm someone with borderline BPD. Maybe true that I'm not "full blown" or "textbook" but I'm on the spectrum.
Treatments
- CoDA Too Soon to Tell
- This delves right into my own relationship with myself. They talked about how empty they feel and how they've struggled and the whole thing was really triggering. Yet they really seemed to get it and talked about exactly how I felt. I was afraid at first that I'd hate everyone in the group cause they'd be "judging me" and "critical of me" but the ritual of saying your name and then saying thank you at the end makes it very individual-the things they talk about are very obviously there's.
- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Somewhat Helpful
- My past five therapists throughout the years all knew that I have BPD (didn't tell me) because they each introduced to me an aspect of DBT. I didn't understand at first and I argued. It took some time for me to grasp a few concepts and I still walked away not liking parts of it. I believe this was due to the dissected approach. I need to go back-but I'm still working through accepting it.
- Emotions Anonymous (EA) Considering
- There isn't a group in my area though and I'm not in a place to start one.
- Meditation Somewhat Helpful
- I've done this off and on. It's always REALLY difficult at first, because all I seem to do is focus on myself since it seems that's all there is and I usually start to cry unless I'm reminded that meditation isn't about me-at all, in fact it's letting go of all those upsetting notions and feelings about myself.
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- I feel alone, alone, alone. No one with BPD seems to want to acknowledge it, talk about it and they definitely don't want to know that I have it. It just pisses them off or I've pissed off others who have it-didn't know there was a name for it-but do now cause of me. Those that don't have it don't want me to accept that I do. I get it though, cause sometimes others with BPD who talk about it too much just start to make me feel so angry at myself and who I am.
- Writing Working / Worked
- Patience Working / Worked
- Crying Working / Worked
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Getting Angry Somewhat Helpful
- This anger is really more directed at God and has to do with acceptance issues
- Acceptance Too Soon to Tell
- Research Somewhat Helpful
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Breathwork Considering
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Tai Chi Considering
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Somewhat Helpful
- Group Therapy Considering
- Listening Working / Worked
- 5-HTP Considering
- Valerian Considering
- Rescue Remedy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- CranioSacral Therapy Working / Worked
- Aromatherapy Working / Worked
Open Shyness
Treatments
- Self-esteem Working / Worked
- Singing Working / Worked
- Socializing Somewhat Helpful
- Writing Working / Worked
- Crying Working / Worked
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Getting Angry Somewhat Helpful
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Dancing Somewhat Helpful
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Breathwork Somewhat Helpful
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- Magnesium Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Tai Chi Working / Worked
- Music Therapy Working / Worked
- Playing Sports Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Working / Worked
- Martial Arts Working / Worked
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Pets Working / Worked
- Meditation Somewhat Helpful
- Time Working / Worked
- Leave Working / Worked
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Working / Worked
- Support Groups Considering
- Art Working / Worked
- Love Working / Worked
- Remembering Working / Worked
- What to say out loud, what others say and your strengths and good feelings in your head
- Acupuncture Considering
- Willpower Somewhat Helpful
- Education (School) Somewhat Helpful
- Acupressure Working / Worked
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Walking Working / Worked
- Earn Money Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Laughter Working / Worked
- Valerian Considering
- Rescue Remedy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Biofeedback Working / Worked
- Reflexology Working / Worked
- CranioSacral Therapy Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Hypothyroidism
Treatments
- Armour Thyroid Working / Worked
- Carbimazole Not Working
- Cytomel Not Working
- Synthroid Not Working
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Research Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- Magnesium Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Support Groups Considering
- Acupuncture Considering
- Basal Thermometer Somewhat Helpful
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- NAET Considering
- Low Glycemic Index Diet Working / Worked
- Ayurvedic Medicine Considering
Open Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)
Treatments
- Progesterone Not Working
- Progesterone Cream Somewhat Helpful
- Provera Not Working
- Bioidentical Hormones Considering
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Research Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Support Groups Considering
- Acupuncture Considering
- Oral Contraceptives Not Working
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- DHEA Somewhat Helpful
- Ayurvedic Medicine Considering
- L-Glutamine Working / Worked
Open Celiac Disease
Treatments
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Too Soon to Tell
- Casein-Free Diet Considering
- Dairy-Free Diet Considering
- Gluten Free Diet Somewhat Helpful
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Research Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Support Groups Considering
- Remembering Working / Worked
- Acupuncture Considering
- Willpower Working / Worked
- Probiotics Considering
- Iron Working / Worked
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- Flax Working / Worked
- NAET Considering
- L-Glutamine Working / Worked
Open Environmental Allergies
Treatments
- Allegra Not Working
- This had no effect on me.
- Benadryl Somewhat Helpful
- Clarinex Not Working
- This did work until my body got used to it and it stopped working.
- Flonase Not Working
- Made my entire nose numb and I sneezed a lot.
- Nasacort AQ Not Working
- Made my entire nose numb and I sneezed a lot.
- Nasal Irrigation Working / Worked
- The only stuff up my nose that felt okay.
- Nasonex Not Working
- Made my entire nose numb and I sneezed a lot.
- Rhinocort AQ Not Working
- Made my entire nose numb and I sneezed a lot.
- Sudafed Somewhat Helpful
- If I take the OTC one more than three days in a row I'll experience worse symptoms immed. after taking it.
- Zyrtec Somewhat Helpful
- For only a week.
- Research Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Magnesium Working / Worked
- Leave Working / Worked
- Remembering Working / Worked
- Acupuncture Considering
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- Green Tea Working / Worked
- Fenugreek Considering
Open Anxiety
Treatments
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Meditation Working / Worked
- Positive Thinking Working / Worked
- Acceptance Somewhat Helpful
- Getting Angry Somewhat Helpful
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Working / Worked
- Caffeine and sugar
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- Magnesium Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Tai Chi Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Somewhat Helpful
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Leave Working / Worked
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Working / Worked
- Love Somewhat Helpful
- Sleep Working / Worked
- Acupressure Working / Worked
- Walking Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Lavender Working / Worked
- 5-HTP Considering
- Valerian Considering
- Rescue Remedy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- White Noise Working / Worked
- Biofeedback Working / Worked
- Reflexology Working / Worked
- CranioSacral Therapy Working / Worked
- Aromatherapy Working / Worked
- B-Complex Vitamins Working / Worked
- Green Tea Working / Worked
- Eat Small Meals Frequently Working / Worked
- Kava Considering
- Feldenkrais Considering
- Low Glycemic Index Diet Working / Worked
- Memory Foam Mattress Working / Worked
Open Female Sexual Issues
As a sexual assault survivor I'm often numb the key areas and can't reach an orgasm. Many partners have taken it personally, don't understand sexual abuse or trauma and take offense that I don't trust them. To me expecting me to trust on the spot is like pushing someone who can't swim into the deep end and telling them: "just swim" I experience a lot of anger around sex and can sometimes direct it toward the person I'm with.
Treatments
- Dancing Working / Worked
- There are a lot of movements that open up stiff joints and increase comfort with ones body. Belly dancing encourages the Inner Sex Goddess in all women her right to feel sexy in her own body. Be aware that partner dancing is usually best taught not with your current bfgf. Usually theyll pair each of you with someone experienced but if you can get past this to the point where you and your bfgf can practice together you develop your own rhythm and get to know each others bodies in a new way.
- Love Somewhat Helpful
- I know it needs to be there but I separate it because I start to feel really overwhelmed anxious to sometimes panicky the more I allow myself to feel love at the same time as sex.
- Massage Working / Worked
- The traditional kind from a massage therapist that lets you realize a sense of your body relaxation a sense of safe nonsexual touch no obligation to give a massage back and nonsexual good feelings from your body.
- Patience Working / Worked
- Physical Exercise Somewhat Helpful
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Sex Therapy Considering
- Sleep Considering
- Talking Working / Worked
- My bf knows that I was sexually abused but has stopped me from time to time when Ive talked about it saying that its too overwhelming for him to hear. Its important to me for him to know about everything that happened to me but its as if he thinks Im blaming him for it or that hes responsible for healing me and its weird. We have to talk about it though whenever I start crying in the middle of something. We also talk about likes dislikes and fantasies etc.
- Yoga Working / Worked
- Willpower Not Working
- With much frustration at myself and wanting to be normal Ive ignored whenever I feel anxious or upset and it gets worse. When Ive simply gone through with what he wants he stops calls my bluff and says he only wants what I want. Then I freak out from a desire to please him and start offering him sexual favors. To which he responds by saying that he just wants to hold me. Which makes me more anxious until we are in a vertical position again.
- Helping Others Somewhat Helpful
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Considering
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Working / Worked
- Meditation Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Biofeedback Working / Worked
- Kegel Exercise Working / Worked
- Aromatherapy Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Incest Survivors
Treatments
- Getting Angry Working / Worked
- Helping Others Somewhat Helpful
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Somewhat Helpful
- Martial Arts Working / Worked
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Meditation Somewhat Helpful
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Somewhat Helpful
- Support Groups Considering
- Art Somewhat Helpful
- Love Working / Worked
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Massage Working / Worked
- Listening Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
Treatments
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Somewhat Helpful
- Talking Working / Worked
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Research Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Breathing Exercises Working / Worked
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- EMDR Working / Worked
- Martial Arts Working / Worked
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Meditation Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Forgiveness Too Soon to Tell
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Somewhat Helpful
- Art Somewhat Helpful
- Love Working / Worked
- Sleep Working / Worked
- Play Therapy Working / Worked
- Laughter Working / Worked
- Rescue Remedy Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Biofeedback Working / Worked
- Reflexology Working / Worked
- CranioSacral Therapy Working / Worked
- Aromatherapy Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Bisexuality
Treatments
- Acceptance Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Socializing Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Working / Worked
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Support Groups Considering
- Art Working / Worked
- Love Working / Worked
- Remembering Working / Worked
- How you personally identify with it.
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Listening Working / Worked
Open Healthy Relationships
Treatments
- Patience Working / Worked
- Talking Working / Worked
- Writing Working / Worked
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Reiki Working / Worked
- Dancing Working / Worked
- Breathwork Working / Worked
- Socializing Working / Worked
- Playing Sports Somewhat Helpful
- Guided Imagery Working / Worked
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Meditation Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Leave Working / Worked
- Sometimes some temporary space is needed away from your partner for a while
- Forgiveness Working / Worked
- Art Working / Worked
- Love Working / Worked
- Remembering Working / Worked
- Education (School) Working / Worked
- Budgeting Working / Worked
- Poetry Working / Worked
- Yoga Working / Worked
- Couples yoga
- Earn Money Working / Worked
- Massage Working / Worked
- Couples massage
- Listening Working / Worked
- Laughter Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Body Work Working / Worked
Open Healthy Eating
Treatments
- Relaxation Working / Worked
- Reiki Considering
- Avoid Certain Foods / Chemicals Somewhat Helpful
- If I remember to look for: High fructose corn syrup, nitrates/nitrites, trans fats, etc.
- Fish Oil Working / Worked
- Magnesium Working / Worked
- Tai Chi Working / Worked
- Guided Imagery Working / Worked
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- Meditation Working / Worked
- Reading Working / Worked
- Time Working / Worked
- Remembering Working / Worked
- Acupuncture Considering
- Willpower Somewhat Helpful
- Counting Calories Not Working
- Slim-Fast Not Working
- Probiotics Considering
- High Fiber Diet Working / Worked
- Iron Working / Worked
- Holistic Health Working / Worked
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Working / Worked
- Low Salt Diet Working / Worked
- Reflexology Working / Worked
- B-Complex Vitamins Working / Worked
- Green Tea Working / Worked
- Eat Small Meals Frequently Working / Worked
- Garlic Working / Worked
- Potassium Working / Worked
- Low Glycemic Index Diet Working / Worked
- Ayurvedic Medicine Considering
- L-Glutamine Working / Worked
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Dog Lovers Group
Photography As Therapy
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Gardening Friends
DBT skills
crystal healing for all
DBT support group
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