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About Me
LesleyP
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About Me
I am a 33-year-old soon-to-be-single gal. I can't wait!
I am a 33-year-old soon-to-be-single gal. I can't wait!
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Interests
I like spending time with friends and family, cooking, playing records, and spending time outside. I love snowboarding.
I like spending time with friends and family, cooking, playing records, and spending time outside. I
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I envy YOU! youre almost out. I want to be able to say "soon to be single 32 year old gal"
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Thanks for the support!
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You are not overreacting, I know what its like to loose your bearings on reality
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I don't have the answers for your court situation i just want to send some encouragement your way to come to this site as much as you can. For me it has been a comfort and i have found sisters of the soul who know what you have been thru, want to listen, try to help and genuinely care. You need to find local support to like a group of women that meet who have gone thru what you have. I had to move also and i checked on the web for the local domestic violence organization. You went thru abuse and they can sometimes also help with the legal questions. Keep comin back....
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Support Groups
Close Breakups & Divorce
I was in an emotionally abusive marriage for 4 years. I filed for divorce last year. My stbx has consistently delayed the proceedings and now we have to go to court. I need guidance and support from others who are going through the same thing.
Treatments
- Forgiveness Not Working
- I cannot forgive him at this time. I am hopeful that once the divorce is final I can forget him completely.
- Leave Working / Worked
- I moved from IL to VA to escape. It was very effective. I basically have no contact with him except through lawyers. I no longer email him since he will manipulate me.
- Music Somewhat Helpful
- I have found that music can affect mood. When I am feeling down, I listen to songs that make me happier.
- Psychotherapy Not Working
- I think that I didn't have a good counselor. This may be why I didn't find counseling successful.
- Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful
- They didn't know that there was a problem so it came as quite a surprise to them that I was leaving my stbx. My father still has not come to terms with losing a son in-law. He doesn't understand.
- Support Groups Too Soon to Tell
- This is my first one so we'll see...
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- I feel whiny when I talk about it. Divorce is such a bummer.
- Time Working / Worked
- I hope that in time, I'll be able to move on and put all this behind me.
Close Physical & Emotional Abuse
I was married to a man for 4 years who I think has NPD. I am in the process of divorcing him. He was emotionally abusive and made me feel like I was crazy. I could barely function when I left him. In the beginning, I would have anxiety attacks doing simple errands (buying groceries, driving). He sucked me dry. It took me months to feel any emotion. I left him nine months ago and have been working through my feelings alone. I'm here because I want to understand how this could happen to me.
Treatments
- Divorce Working / Worked
- I'm in the process of divorcing him, but he continually holds up the proceedings. I don't think it has to do with money, but control. Initially, I tried to work with him and have an amicable divorce but he wants more than half. I am terrified to go to divorce court since I think he will lie about me. He is incredibly charming and charismatic so I wouldn't be surprised if the judge sides with him. It is killing me slowly.
- Forgiveness Not Working
- I don't know if I will ever be able to forgive him for how he treated me. I hope that once the divorce is final I can just forget all about him. I'll learn from my mistakes and move on.
- Leave Working / Worked
- This worked for me. I moved across the country so I don't have to see him. We worked in the same office so I had to switch jobs, too. I had planned my escape for months.
- Psychotherapy Not Working
- I felt like a whiner. I do not think my counselor understood what life with my husband was like. I think I need to find a counselor who specializes in emotional abuse.
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- One of my best friends also was married to a narcissist but he became physically abusive after they had their first child. Talking with her has been really helpful. No one else understands. They think that I am crazy for leaving such a wonderful man.
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