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Barb5 
Seems depression isn't something to worry about right now with all going on with Mom. Do you know my mother has never had depression in her entire life other than 2 weeks when my Dad died!! She has stamina I tell you. Maybe her stamina will get her through this part of her life as well.
I'm packing to go to SC as promised to take care of my grandchildren while my son and daughterinlaw go to the Caribbean for a week. My husband will be going afte work daily to see Mom while I'm gone. And my youngest daughter in TN is coming to help feed Mom and help out while I'm gone.
For me, it's a welcome break. It's not the greatest time to be going anywhere but it has been planned for a while. I hope to come back refreshed, renewed and ready to roll up my sleeves and get Mom back on her feet! :-)
Talk to you guys in a week or so, be good now!!
Barb
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Hi Barb, I hope you are able to let go and let God during your short "break" and that caring for the young ones will rejuvenate you. I also want to make a couple of comments about depression. One is that your mom never had it. Sadness and depression - grief and depression - are not the same thing. So many people use the word "depressed" when they really mean sad or something else. If your mom only showed sadness/grief for two weeks after the death of her life partner, that isn't depression - that's just normal grief. What is unusual is that it was so short a time. Consider that in fact she may have been hiding her emotions and putting on a brave front for the sake of her children. Indeed if she was able to go on with a stiff upper lip, she was a woman of admirable fortitude.
Depression isn't just an emotional state. It has an organic cause and exhibits many symptoms. These often include things like loss of memory, inability to concentrate, sleeping too much or too little, lack of interest in things once enjoyed, irritablility, and yes - a low mood - but this later is something that persists for longer than two weeks.
Although therapies for depression are many and varied, one of the best is getting involved in caring for other people. So your caring for your grandchildren may be just what the doctor ordered. I know you have been caring for your mother for a long time, but when you are dealing with a disease that has no real cure, it can go the other way and worsen your depression because of the feeling of helplessness one gets when coping with incurable things.
Anyway - I'm glad you are getting a week away. Don't feel guilty about it either (smiles). God Bless, Marti
Martiki
Awwwww bye bye! Have fun!!
MissChels
The time away will be good for you. You need a break! Besides, the grands will keep you busy :) Have fun and we'll catch up when you return.
rascaloo
enjoy your break take care of you then when you get back then take care of your mom
kilina