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DesignGirl38 
3:11am
I have hope again. I can breath deeply again without my heart clutching. I finally see how I can be happy, truly happy within myself. I'm learning so much with my codependency book and I'm so excited because I see what I've been doing to cause myself so much misery (giving my power to others, rescuing others to my detriment, enmeshing myself with others, etc etc etc). Even though it's scary to handle situations differently and not take on all the stress and anxiety of everyone else's problems (mostly my H's problems and addiction), it's also totally liberating! I can feel the stress in me melting away. I feel lots of HOPE for a better life.
My H is "worried about me". I wonder if it's because I seemed so happy the last few days and I've been focusing on me? Who knows and more importantly, who cares?? I'm going to do what feels right to me, not him.
I'm actually excited about this weekend! That's a first since D-Day.
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Amen sister! I'm so happy for you :) Amazing how when we feel good...they get "worried". Jack-asses!!
Cheers to us, for being strong women :)
Jenn119
This is great for you. One huge break thru! Learning these things about yourself can be on load off of your shoulders and give you so many tools to move forward with.
Why is your H worried about you? Don't tell me he feels threatened by all of this? Could that be it?
Sending support your way. Keep challenging yourself and keep growing! L~
Lstecker
You sound great you are learning about yourself with is a good thing. let your H worry about you who cares. You matter more and how you feel and you are discovering that you can do it.
rose77
That sounds GREAT! Your husband IS worried about you dear, but for his own selfish reasons. To him, he is thinking:
"wait. What? She is HAPPY without me MAKING her happy? She is... she is living her own life? She thinks for herself? WHAT THE HELL!? THAT MEANS SHE CAN AND WILL LEAVE ME FOR BEING A DOUCHEIST! Noooo"
Keep going. Empower yourself to be yourself. Of course that would be threatening to him. Its all sorts of spooky when you look around and realize you no longer have a doormat to wipe your feet on ( for him that is)
BetrayedAngel
Oh yes, DesignGirl, this is the best! It's great to get your hand on some self-help books, on co-dependency, and you truly see the light! Now the trick is to recognize it when it happens, as opposed to after it happens. Oh yeah, it explains so damn much about ourselves. We can now, put a label on it, recognize it, and start moving in the direction of knocking that shit right out of our system.
I, personally, find it amusing that he's worried about you???? More like betrayed said, he's worried about himself because his wife has a secret which is about to unfold, and it's not even a dirty little secret, but explains how she has handled his dirty little secrets! Hahahha, I think it's amusing, that when you feel great, empower yourself with knowledge, now he's afraid! Hmmmph, it's about time, he gets a bit concerned! lol
You go girl, gobble that stuff up! Is it Melody Beattie or that Irene K, some long greek name I think! If you would email me with the author and name of book, I would appreciate it! I read Melody Beattie's books back in the 80's when I got divorced, and it was an eye-opener, but I haven't read Irene's stuff, so I was just wondering! Keep me posted! I'm am so glad and happy for you! Keep up the good work, DesignG!
blondegal55
Does anyone know the name of the book? I'd love to read it. I did buy a couple of books on infidelity and deciding whether I should forgive or not, but I don't have any books on codependency. Good luck Design! You sound great. Stay strong!
jackiee1970