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Sabishi 
4:48pm Saturday
I'd been talking with my friend about my frustration about not having a straight male friend in my real life, lol- and the next day, I met a guy whom we'll call Fred. He said he recognized me, and asked for my number. I didn't know what to do- I gave it to him. I thought, "well, we can just be friends." A while after he gave me a call and asked to hang out. I was busy, and I told him so, and that was that. It was a while after before he called me again, and this time I just felt like crap and didn't want to go out, so I gave him an excuse. Afterwards, I thought I'd call him and him and another friend of mine could go out someday, but before I called him, he again called me. I was busy- and he started to plead with me on the phone and insist that I see him. I told him I needed time in advance- then he called me the very next day. Again he insisted and plead, and I told him I'd call him later that night if I wasn't busy. At this time, I was beginning to get a little anxious. The behavior was worrying me, how obsessive it was. Obviously, he wanted something from me, and it wasn't friendship. So, I didn't call him back. I thought it'd send the message I wasn't interested in talking with him... and yet he called me again today, questioning about what I wanted... He is pressuring me to hang out with him more and more assertively, and its freaking me out. Am I overreacting or do I really have cause to worry here?
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You may have cause to worry. Do you know of anyone else that knows this guy a bit more closely? You could ask them what sort of person he is and make a decision based on that. Or you could take the other stance of telling him that his behaviour is unwelcome and that means you dont want to hang out with him. If he makes you feel anxious and uncomfortable then Id tread carefully and see what happens. If nothing changes, tell him you will call the police.
Good luck and hugguns
BazLazarus
I agree with Baz....If he makes you uncomfortable in any way or you are sure you absolutely do not want him to contact you, then inform him to quit calling or you will call the police....In my opinion and experience, it sounds like he is either obsessive, or just lonely and extremely needy and clingy. Go forward lightly and slowly...If you do not feel safe hanging out with him, then don't. If you want to hang out with him, but not alone, then make sure you always do it in a group.
crzychik
Sounds like he has something particular on his mind .. which may very well add baggage to your life.
WanderingVet
Go with your gut feeling and remember you are in charge, not him. If you don't want to hang out with him, then don't. You don't owe him an explanation as you haven't developed a friendship yet. Don't let him steal your joy sweetie, it's not worth it.
browneyedgrl
I agree with everyone! The guy is being a bit pushy and you shouldn't feel like you have to answer to his wishes.
spts8
This guy asked you for your number the very first time you met? And then proceeded to call you repeatedly...yeah, pushy is right. Tell him to stop calling you; if he wants a friendship he can damn well do it the right way; and that's NOT by bombarding you with phone calls.
deekay
you have every right to feel edgy about this guy.He is obsessive and something just isn't right here. I would never take a chance with him along and I would contact those who know him and find out just what makes him tick. Safety is the uttermost for you and this world is full of those who only satisfy their own egos, i am being nice saying that. He sounds like a goof ball to me.
OLDBIKER
Definitely a red flag...please tell him to stop contacting you and block his number...good luck (((HUGS)))
mom2michelle
trust your gut on this one.it may not be anything but then again it may..better safe than sorry.
carolina320
Yea, trust your instincts!
ThePepperMan
i would stop answering his calls. i had a similar thing happen to me. most guys give up eventually.
vegan1978
I'd trust your instincts hun. He's not respecting your boundaries, I'd stop taking his calls. He's way too pushy.
chelle37
There's definitely something not right with this guy. Do what you feel you need to do. As Pepper said, go with your instincts.
CloudStrife
that guy sounds like a creep. Doesn't sound like a good idea to keep talking to him. Find out if anyone else knows him and if things get worse then call the police.
JosephC