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Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Parent

I lost my mother to cancer on July 18,2009. I have no idea how to get through each day. I am devestated. I keep thinking each day will become easier but that hasn't happened.

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

I find that I cry often. Sometimes in public and very often in private. I feel drained.

Getting Angry Not Working

I am very angry but cannot voice or show it for fear that my husband will think it is directed somehow at him.

Grief Counseling Considering

Looking for support groups or private counseling.

Helping Others Working / Worked

I help my Dad being that he is handicapped. He can do quite a bit by himself it just takes him a very long time to accomplish anything. I hate to see him struggle so I try to help where I can.

Keeping Busy Considering

I need to find hobbies and get back to exercising.

Music Somewhat Helpful

When Mom was back in the hospital and things were very hectic I did purchase a few relaxation cd's. They did help. I need to get back to listening to them.

Pets Working / Worked

Recently got 2 Golden Retreiver puppies. I find the distraction helpful but wish my mother was here to enjoy them also.

Poetry Not Working

Not a fan of poetry.

Prayer Not Working

I pray/talk with God and my mother often. I am angry with God for taking such a wonderful person who took such great care of others when she could finally start to enjoy her life.

Psychotherapy Considering

Reading Working / Worked

I find reading magazines (short articles) a bit relaxing but feel guilty that I am not spending that time with my husband.

Remembering Working / Worked

I do it all the time. I also find that it helps but often I end up crying.

Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful

Depends on who it is...my Dad understands and we try to talk through it. My husband who was a great help to my family doesn't understand what I am going through. He did not come from a loving, supportative, intact family. He thinks I should be doing less for my father and that I am neglecting him. I believe that he feels I should be moving on with my life. Friends are there if I need them.

Support Groups Considering

Looking for a local support group.

Talking Working / Worked

Depends on who I am talking with. I find that it sometimes makes my life worse.

Time Too Soon to Tell

Mom passed 1 month ago yesterday.

Xanax Working / Worked

.25 mg. 1 tablet 23 times a day or as needed.Takes the edge off.