seems to have been storming for quite some time now... everything will fall into place soon. keeping hope alive.
seems to have been storming for quite some time now... everything will fall into place soon. keeping hope alive.
September 16, 2009 12:29am
another day has passed, and still nothing. Headaches, eye aches, heart aches...my entire existance seems like and ache... blah is what i feel …
August 19, 2009 12:57pm
"The stress and the pain that I'm feeling inside,
Seems harder and harder to stow in hide,
I know I'm not perfect in …
August 18, 2009 11:51pm
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hugs dear . . i was born with cp and then had a tbi and now i live with 1/2 of a brain. i'd luv 2 have u as a friend
hugs
alice
Your fatigue, frustration and forgetfulness is quite normal for head injured people. It took me about 18 monthsw before I could do more than 1 load of clothes in one day. (that incuded drying and putting up)
The frustration I kept in check by telling myself I was doing the best I could for that minutes, hour and day. It took me a while to learn how to adjust my way of rhitnking I could do like I use to. I had to learn how to sloaaw down, lay down even if yu don;t sleep, your body/brain need time to unwind more than yuo eer thought.
As far as the forgetfulness, well, it's gotten better with time, but still far off from what I was before the accident. How long has you head injruy occurred?
I thing I can tell you is that trying to read, on make phone calls or focus on anything for over 20 minutes was excruitiating beause of feeling complete exhaustion and also it would bring on Major Headaches.
Try to learn how to moderate what you do and for how long....Just keep telling yourself that its okay if you have to lay down for 3/4 of the daylight hours. Eventually you slowly decrease the amount of ti9me your body/brain need rest.
I remember those days.....if I did one load of clothes in a day I was doing great and that included drying them, noit necessarily haning them up or folding.
I learned from my therapist that resting was necessary and I just rode the wave...you know going with how I was each day....My best advice to you is to get a notebook for keeping up with phone calls and what is said...as well as, keep a pocket calendar and a kitchen calendar both for appointments...One time had forgot an appointment, even though I had it written down in both places...
I promise time will help in everything.....You just have to learn to be patient with your self and I dimply didn't focus on how I was different....I simply waws grateful everyday that I was alive and able to vbe with my kids...You have to find s0omething everyday that is positive in your life and not focus on the negative...
I know first hand that it's easier said than done, but really try to focus on the fact that you are still breathing every day.
The other thing that was difficult for me waw not to be HARD on myself when I couldn't talk right or remember something my daughter told me in the morning by that afternoon...
Are you seeing a pshciatirst and a therapist....If no t I would highly recommend both...not that you have to keep seeing thepsychiatirst forever, but my therapist is the one that helped hold me together. I've been seeing her since 6 mos afeter my accident...we are goignon 2yrs and 9 mos togehter...It's VERY OKAY to seek help when you are having trouble with daily living.
I hope this has helped you, let me know and keep in touch!
Sheila
I sufferd a close head injury over 3 yrs ago (yet to get the head therapy I need) and I experieced times of ranting and raving at my children at no apparent reason.
As for Pshychologiccal issues...I use to feel as though someo0ne was following me in my car and I wuld constantly look in the rear view mirror. Most oif that has disappeared, every once in a while I find myself looking in the rear view mirror. Because you have found yourself aggitated with the "new" you that you can't adjust to, especially when going through paranoia,
I had to look for triggers that wouod bring on the aggitation, frustration and the paranoa.
The psychiartist gave medication and currently I have been off the medicaiton since Feberuary 2009. What a difference in knowing I can hanle myself without meds.
I wish you luck and a caring family (which I didn't have) except for my two children 12 and 15 at the time of the accident.
Feel free ti converse with me about your emotions and feelings , as I can remember how bad I was at the time and didn't have a close friend to helo me through it..I relied on reading the Bible as much as I could at the time, the only reason I didn't end up in a Mental Hospital or have my kids taken away from me. God is good and His Word is equally amazing!
Sheila
We are all scarred for life for ever....... I was in an abusive relationship also and feel that had to do with the decisions my son made that ultimately led to his TBI, but I do thank God that when the man (my husband of 22 years) had the gun in my mouth with the hammer cocked he did not pull the trigger, did not kill me or our children as he apparently had planned to do, in his drunken stupor rage. I thank God for this and so much more. If I can help you in any way please let me know. I will give you my direct email addy if you want to chat. Hugs, Kat
After almost 5 years of emotional, physical and psychological abuse, the man I married three years ago almost killed me. I now am recovering from a severe brain injury. So many emotions, fears confusion.
I am going through a divorce from a 3 year marriage/5 year relationship which was extremely abusive. The divorce has been well over-due. Unfortunately, it took him to severly injure me to finally go through with the divorce.
Domesic assualt caused by my ex-husband resulted in a hematoma and blood clot in my brain.
Still a strugling alcohic,although my med condition as abruptly stop my drinkin... occasionally, although it may worsen my condition...
I've been on an emotional rollercoaster for 5 years now. Treated for anxiety and depression. Up and down. I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired.
