Jennyde

Close Physical & Emotional Abuse

I have recently ended an emotionally abusive marriage of 20 years. The last 2 years, he was having an affair with an 18 year old girl. The emotional abuse while he was trying to keep the affair a secret, hit all new heights, it was relentless, incredible, horrific, and nearly distroyed me physically. I left to save my life and my kids. I have filed for divorce. Although I moved out, the abuse and control has not stopped. I have been in personal counseling and regaining my life back!

Treatments

Divorce Too Soon to Tell

Forgiveness Somewhat Helpful

Its a process. I hold on to anger because I want justice and for him to suffer. I realize that I alone cannot bring justice. I have released this burden. Its not my job to hold him accountable or make him repent. I release that burden- I know what he did was wrong but I choose to forgive. I have made the choice but the feelings aren't always there yet.

Leave Somewhat Helpful

Leaving didn't stop the abuse. I don't know why I thought it would. He is still the same psychopathic (seriously he is) guy.

Music Working / Worked

Helps to change mood.

Psychotherapy Working / Worked

Yes, especially in the beginning. I learned ways to start getting myself out of the deep dark pit of brokenness.

Talking Not Working

sometimes that just gets me emotionally worked up, and adding a friend agreeing with me is like adding gas to the fire.

Close Infidelity