Its over
November 6, 2009 1:01pm
I moved the bar to the left today. I had my court appearance and the divorce is final. I wanted this to be over and now it is but it still hurts.
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Retrorv 
5:34pm, October 2, 2009
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About Me
Retrorv
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About Me
I am a government attorney. My wife left me after a 23 year marriage. She had an alcohol fueled midlife crisis. Divorce was final Nov. 2009.
I am a government attorney. My wife left me after a 23 year marriage. She had an alcohol fueled midlife crisis. Divorce was final Nov. 2009.
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7 journal comments, 5 hugs received, 3 hugs given
Thursday
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Retrorv commented on tegian’s journal entry WTH? 5:45pm
Good advise from Trish. Also, be complimented that he wants to see you again. That's a good thing.…
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Retrorv gave notyourmamalyn a thanks 12:11pm
Hi Lynn-Lots of changes in my life the past few weeks! Its amazing what happens when the tornado of divorce…
Tuesday
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Retrorv gave janeee a hug 10:48am
Well happy birthday! So he texted you? How odd. Well, you have a new year and a new house and a new attitude.…
Monday
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Retrorv commented on Creekside’s journal entry Whew! 4:09pm
Sounds like a metaphor for your life. Calm in the middle of a storm. Just like you!! Seems like those…
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Thank you for reading my journal and your understanding. I am so thankful that you are finding peace also. We have so many wonderful things to look forward to each day...Hugs to you my dear friend Dave...
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I just read your journal from Friday..sorry I am so slow at getting it read..Wow I see some real progress in your life and with how you are dealing with things..Big hugs of support your way for you and your daughter...
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Awww thanks for the support, the ties are cut, but he is still there. Today is my birthday and he texted me to wish me a Happy Birthday. It was very strange. I hope everything is good with you. Hugs
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I am glad you are doing well. I guess being on the internet opens one up to all kinds of things. Mine was a personal choice. Just a few moments of emotional overload and I asked to have it removed..It is odd how the divorce brought out that in me once in awhile. But I am good..I hope you have a great week.
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I missed seeing you around. And see I missed your birthday...happy late birthday wishes. I hope things are going well for you...Big hugs
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Close Breakups & Divorce
Going through a divorce after a 23 year marriage. She's had 2 affairs-one on and off again for a year and half with a 23 year old man. She's almost 50 and our son is 21. She's an alcoholic. While the last few years have been pretty miserable I always thought we'd be together. I just wanted her to be happy but the more I tried the more mean and dismissive of me she'd become. I wish I didn't hurt so much for a woman who deliberately destroyed a once happy marriage with 2 kids.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- 10 months is marriage counseling and my wife never put effort in it. Later she said her "heart wasn't in it".
- Forgiveness Considering
- Forgave twice before and was a made a fool.
- Leave Working / Worked
- I would have entitled this one "No Contact". It works. I wish I had put it into effect from the very beginning.
- Love Not Working
- I tried to love her even harder as she began to push away. Now I'm not sure if she's even capable of feeling or giving love.
- Psychotherapy Too Soon to Tell
- Started to see a psychologist to help me in my marriage and now to get over the effects of divorce.
- Reading Too Soon to Tell
- Some self help books.
- Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked
- Its what's getting me through this.
- Support Groups Somewhat Helpful
- I did 2 months in a divorce support group. Not as helpful as I thought but worth the effort. I started out as 1 of 2 men there and ended up the only guy. But it was worth the effort.
- Talking Working / Worked
- Almost talking too much but it helps the pain.
- Time Working / Worked
- Time is definately working. 4 months into this and I feel much better. It does work.
