Time apart
October 25, 2009 11:08am
I've not been on DS for a while now so I want to give an update. My wife and I are still separated now, going on 4 months, and things …
David01tx
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About Me
David01tx
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About Me
I now find myself facing life alone as my wife of 23 years just up and left early July. I have been devestated by this and this is the most pain I have ever felt. Fear, depression, guilt, lonliness are all that I've been feeling lately. I'm having a very hard time letting go, and facing the reality of the situation. My brother recommended I use this site to help me through all these emotions and pain. I'm trying to pull myself together so I can be strong for my two children who are nearly grown. One is off to college this fall, and the other is a junior in HS. 10 years ago I took a new job and we all moved to be near my spouses family in rural Illinois from Dallas. It seemed like the perfect thing to do. But now that she has left me, the only family I have in the area are my two children. I loved my wife and still do but things do not look good as she left. My emotions tell me to leave and go back to my siblings, parents and cousins in the Dallas area. But logic says I need to stay in Illinois at least until my son is out of high school and in college. Plus I have a good job in Illinois, and I should not just walk out on it. If I left, what would I do, where would I live? Guess I'm like all the others who thought this would never happen to them. I did not see all the signs of this happening, but now I do looking back.
I now find myself facing life alone as my wife of 23 years just up and left early July. I have been devestated by this and this is the most pain I have ever felt. Fear, depression, guilt, lonliness are all that I've been feeling lately. I'm having a very hard time letting go, and facing the reality of the situation. My brother recommended I use this site to help me through all these emotions and pain. I'm trying to pull myself together so I can be strong for my two children who are nearly grown.
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I enjoy most anything outdoors, gardening, jogging, sunsets, camping, hiking. I also enjoy being with family and friends first and foremost.
I enjoy most anything outdoors, gardening, jogging, sunsets, camping, hiking. I also enjoy being with
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I Hope your days ahead are filled with many ***Colorful Rainbows***, like the one I am sending you today!!! A Big hug today is also sent to help you feel better!!!
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Thanks for your support, I am sorry you are in pain! take care and I would love to be your friend!
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I am truly sorry you are having a hard time. I'm here if you want to bend my ear. Where in Texas are you?
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I hope all is going well with you. Stay strong. Big hugs to you.
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Close Breakups & Divorce
My wife of 23 years left me 5 weeks ago and I'm looking for help and advice to work through this difficult time.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Not Working
- My wife refuses to go to counseling.
- Leave Not Working
- Love Not Working
- My wife is not communicating with me any longer. I send letters, emails, etc...but nothing back.
- Talking Working / Worked
- Talking with parents, siblings and friends have helped some.
- Time Working / Worked
- As time goes on, I'm having a few good moments every now and then. But they are far and few between.
Close Healthy Relationships
I'm recently separated and wanting to rebuild my life and that includes improving myself and my relationships with my loved ones and friends. I feel I'm a good person, but apparently that is not good enough for my wife who left me 5 weeks ago.
Treatments
- Couples Counseling Somewhat Helpful
- I'm learning more about myself.
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- Helps me to sort out my feelings and make progress.
- Writing Somewhat Helpful
- I'm keeping a journal of my daily feelings and thoughts. It's helpful to put this into words on paper, and then to review.
