Frustrated
August 23, 2009 9:35pm
I'm so over my H...or stbx H...or whatever he is. I haven't talked to him or seen him or had any contact at all with him for 2 whole months. …
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Your post got to me today. I am awaiting divorce papers, and dreading it. Everyone says "it is about time" but when I think about it, like you, I feel cheated. Thank you for posting, and glad by now you are feeling better.
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Sorry you are hurting. Good things are out there waiting for you,so hang in there.
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I read your post today ... we have a similar story. You are where I was a year ago, but you sound better than I was then. I hope you keep posting! And, YOU did not fail, the marriage did not fail, HE failed. I am certain. Telling myself that sometimes helps.
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stay safe and happy.
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congrats on leaving once again!
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Close Physical & Emotional Abuse
I recently left my H of less than a year. I think he was emotionally abusive and controlling. I know I was afraid of him though he never physically hurt me...sometimes I wish he had, then I wouldn't be so confused.
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- Forgiveness Somewhat Helpful
- I honestly don't hate him. I feel sorry for him. But I'm also terribly afraid of him. I used to feel sick and shaky inside when he would come home because I wasn't sure what kind of day it was going to be. I hated not knowing.
- Leave Working / Worked
- I left for the first time in Oct '08...7 weeks into my marriage. I just left again at the end of June, about 7 weeks short of our 1st anniversary. It's mostly working, but I still feel sad, confused & nervous.
- Psychotherapy Not Working
- We went to marriage counseling. I thought it was helping, but after yet another argument...initially over something incredibly petty...things escalated to the point that my H "attempted suicide" with my son and myself at home. This was the 4th time in 14 months he has threatened me with this. I left. I can't do it anymore. I am going to start individual counseling this week. I hope it helps.
- Talking Somewhat Helpful
- My parents & siblings are incredibly supportive. But, I don't think they truly understand. They are of the mind that "It's done and over with. You are out. You are safe. You should be happy." It isn't that easy. I do have an aunt that went through the same thing. It helps to talk to her. But, shortly after I do talk with someone, I start to feel bad again.
