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Nitrogen 
I have come to this site because I need some help.
The past 5 years I have been making a lot of life changes; however, I have hit a brick wall. There are still goals I wish to achieve in my lifetime and I am having a difficult time getting through them. I find motivation a challenge mostly because I tend to get upset when I feel I have failed at something. I have tried to lose weight and, despite a 10lb weight loss in a month a few years back, I can't seem to keep motivated and believe I will just fail at whatever I try. I tend to get frustrated easily when I am having troubles with something, or there is something that I just don't understand when it's explained to me.
My point to all this is that I need someone who is willing to help remind me of the good and success in my life when I've forgotten it. And possibly someone who needs help too, then we could help each other. I need someone who will hold me responsible when I decide to give up on everything.
One of my main goals at the moment is weight loss. I only need to lose about 20lbs. But I believe that if I can concentrate on being happy and not giving up when I have a bad day, I can achieve this goal. I also believe that it will teach me how to see the success in my achievements instead of the failures.
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Hello my new friend:) WTG on your efforts, losing 10 pounds earlier and addressing the need for good health early rather than continuing the old patterns. I'm going to catch up with your journal entries, welcome to DS! I'm new too, just joined the end of May. I've been so happy with all the sincere, open people here; I hope you'll enjoy it too. I wanted to suggest, on your goal to be happy and remember the positives, something a therapist taught me that really helped. I was seeing her for depression that had gone on untreated for years. As we talked, she helped me realize that my days were full of automatic--and extremely negative--self talk, where I was actually putting myself down constantly, 24/7. Her advice was to start catching those thoughts, negating them (by thinking, 'that's not true', or simply, 'STOP'!), then make a conscious positive thought about myself. I became aware that dozens and dozens of times every day I had in fact been horribly critical of myself. No wonder I was miserable! I tried what she said. At first it was sooo awkward, unnatural. But I kept seeing her once or twice a week, kept working at this and other little things she assigned me to do. This 'retraining the brain' as she called it to think more positively, while it took many months of daily practice, worked better for me than anything else. I'm so much happier, more comfortable. Sure the issues are there that I am working on, but I no longer feel as awful about that stuff. Hope this helps, but I know you'll find your way and you definitely do have my support and friendship. Take care!
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