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MollM 
12:53pm, August 5, 2009
Packing & getting ready for a three day show in the Berkshires. It will be good
as I am staying with friends during the show.
Had a session with the therapist yesterday. I went in feeling so hopeless
so it was good to talk she points out my wrong thinking and listening
too much to the voices in my head. Her take is that I show all the signs
of abuse (not physical) by my way of thinking a responding.
It seems that the sense of hopelessness is what I battle with daily. I don't
think so much about ex anymore but I can't see or feel any bright future yet.
It helps to talk to a friend daily, just to make a connection. I keep busy and
am planning changes for my business so its all good. I seem to always
have this empty, lonely feeling that does not leave. Hopefully that will
change with time. Perhaps I should read some of the books recommended.
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YES...you need to read "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life" by Susan Anderson and The Script: The 100% Absolutely Predictable Things Men Do When They Cheat by Elizabeth Landers and Vicky Mainzer...there is a 3rd called: "When Am I Going to Be Happy?: How to Break the Emotional Bad Habits That Make You Miserable by Penelope Russianoff"...Personally I have not read the 3rd one yet, but have been told it is very helpful...you can get any or all of these on Amazon.com...I have read "The Script" and let me tell you...it told me SOOOOOOO much...this was in his head years ago to do this...although he didn't use the exact words in the script...he sure did follow the actions and most of the words to a "T"...Sweetie...NONE of this is your fault in anyway...you will quickly see...and the abandonment one...really tells you...what you need to do for yourself to pull out of this...An additional one that is great for self esteem is one...I have been reading over and over for years...and until now...it never sunk in, and that was because, I really couldn't relate to what the author was saying...it is called: "You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay" Do the "exercises" she is telling you to do in the book...not really exercises, but, you go look yourself in the eye in a mirror and complete the actions she talks about...They have all been a God's Send to me...and although I have low points still...they are getting fewer and fewer...and I have only been enduring all this for a little less the 4 months...Use this time for YOU, you are a Great, Vibrent, Beautiful Women, and life is waiting for you to join in...and remember..to be happy it is the BEST revenge...right now he is looking at you thinking he did the right thing...you are sad and tired...Make him see the errors of his ways...and along the way of doing that..you are going to start seeing how much better you are and how much better you can do, and you are going to WANT to move on without him, he was holding you back, you are free of it all now...fly and be free, my Beautiful Butterfly Friend...
pmpda
Thank you so much for such a sweet and supportive response. I will order
the books today. I actually listen to Hayhouse radio everyday when I'm
working....that is Louise Hay's inspirational station. You are doing so well,
I praise you on staying focused and letting yourself see that you are not the
victime and he can't just do what he wants then come back when he wants.
I thought that was so great you were so straight with him and really felt it
yourself. Whatever happens stay that course and stay strong.
MollM
I am very proud of pmpda, too, and so very grateful that she has now joined me in extolling the virtues of two of those books! While it's a little late in the game for The Script to do you much good, it will help you gain perspective on the Hell you endured and, hopefully, will make you see how still asking yourself all those dreaded Why questions is counterproductive and a waste of your precious energy. Absolutely DO get a copy of Susan Anderson's book, though. I keep it handy and still read parts of it from time to time. If you can't get it through your local bookstore, you can get it from www.abandonmentrecovery.com
CowgirlKathi
Ok,, gotta read these books. pmpda,, amazing,,, thanks so much.
jubedobedo