I can't wait til the 15th of …
I can't wait til the 15th of March. On that date, my 7-year old son will be in my full custody, his mother …
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Well things started snowballing in my favor starting this week. My STBX is willing to give up custody, although she thinks our son will want to come live with her at some point. Which I'm sure he will as well, but for now she is giving me custody and paying me spousal and child support to move back into the house until it sells. Then we will have to find a place that takes our puppies so we don't have to find them homes. I'm trying to keep focused on my son and his continuing happiness and well being. I think that has really helped me get throught this because I took my feelings out of it as best I could and concentrated on what would be best for him. She is trying to buddy up to me now, dropping the no contact order. Sending me all kinds of emails, I don't want anything from her. I have what's most important to me and that's my son. I still love her, I know that's crazy, but I just feel that she is ill and doesn't really know what she is doing. That said I still have to deal with the reality of her actions and that is where we are at now. All things considered I've actually come out in relatively good shape and I'm in a position to be a positive role model for our son.
Thanks to all of my DS friends who have been a HUGE lifeline keeping me afloat. I don't think you really know how much your support helped me then and continues to help me now. There is no way to quantify how much I value you folks and needless to say I can never repay you. I pray that God grants everyone some healing grace and quiets the turmoil in all of our lives.
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That is great news for you GF! It sounds like you are a outstanding human being and a wonderful father. I'm glad you got custody, even if it's just till your son decides what HE wants to do. It will give you time to be even more of a positive influence in his life.
Hugs!
Cristi
Katt1970
What are you talking about.... how much we've helped YOU? Holy Cow - you've helped every one of us tremendously. I can't thank you enough for the words of encouragement at the darkest of times, and just the everyday reaching out that you've done while I've been dealing with my husband's depression has been so very helpful. I honestly don't think I would have been able to sustain things as long as I did while my husband was in crisis, if it were not for you and the others on this site that have sent me words of encouragement.
Okay... now about you :-). I am so excited to hear that your SBTX is coming to the realization that giving you custody would be in the best interest of your son. That is FABULOUS! And it sounds like she's now in the "uh oh I'm not winning this fight" phase that depressed people tend to land in after the all-to-often ambivilent/combative phase that we've come to fear. As for your comment that you still love her - please don't feal regret for fealing this way. It is a reflection of who you are and the depth of your relationship with your wife. And it demonstrates that you don't see retaliation as being beneficial - which it isn't. Anyway, I am so happy that things are moving in the right direction for you, FINALLY! My best to you Scott - you certainly deserve it! Nancy
yesimkidding
That's awesome news! I couldn't imagine having to share custody...I love my boys and imagine that would be one of the hardest parts of divorce. I pray for peace, too...and He hears us. :) Take care...talk to you soon! Becky
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