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Katt1970 
4:10pm Sunday
He got of jail on Sunday, it's now Thursday and my nerves are shot. First it was the text from his sister wanting to know if his fines were paid, then it was the 6 calls from him that sent me into hysterics, then his big sis telling how if something happens to him or he goes to jail that it's all my fault...now he's missing. He took off with one of his drinking buddies last night and now his family can't find him. I don't like this friend of his, but I'm hoping he has enough sense not to bring him here.
Dear God, I'm so tired of it!
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Katt, I'm sorry. I know this has got to be extremly hard. Keep your head up. You will make it. I wish you the best
dawnsule
Katt can you go and stay with someone for a couple of days? If he's possibly out drinking things could escalate. Be very carefull and take care of yourself. Stay in touch!
goodfight
I'm sure I could, but I'm terrified to go off and leave my animals. He's already threatened them once. I know it sounds stupid, but they are my babies and he knows it would hurt me to deeply if he done something to one or all of them. I'm just going to be vigilant and ride it out.
Katt1970
Katt, he isn't a part of your life anymore. i would suggest that you talk to the domestic violence people. they might be able to give you a device which you can activate at any time if you feel worried and he's there.
but not just that, you have to stop worying about what he's doing and how he's moving. if you changed your number you'd loose the worrying. he knows they'll tell you when he goes missing etc and that they're stil in touch with you and so it just keps things going. you have absolutely no responsibility for him anymore. did you tell the people that he breached his order and did you get it reported and stuff?
that's the practical stuff. as for your own well being, keep cuddling those pets of yours and stay happy. kep remembering that you are still moving forward. its just him who isn't.
silentstrength
I thought you changed your phone number. How did you find out he is missing? He is no longer your responsibility. His relatives got him out and it is their fault if he gets in trouble. If he goes back to jail it's because he did wrong. Not because of you.
Have you called the sheriff and asked for help and advice on how to handle this? That will put them on the alert that there is a problem. The sheriff's office may not even know he is already getting in touch with you.
trisha9054
His sister called me on my work phone. I've not reported it to the sheriff, as I've not heard from him anymore since I changed my cell number. I "let it slide" and I know that I did the WRONG thing by not reporting it. However, I am working on protecting myself and if he contacts me again or comes to my home I will have him arrested. I just hate being forced into that position. Why can't it just be over? The divorce is final, he's been sentenced, he knows there is a price to be paid for his violations. Why does it keep going? I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't.
Katt1970
Girl your not damned either way he is. You do what you have to do just protect yourself at all cost and cover your six!
goodfight
Thanks GF...I'm doing my very best!
Katt1970
You are stronger than you think. You will get through this and continue with your new life.
Some people just don't learn from their mistakes and apparently your ex is one of those people. It sounds like his family has made excuses for him most of his life and now he is going to have to grow up or go back to jail.
I will say it. It might be good that he lands back in jail. If he does it will be his own fault. Usually people learn from their mistakes and don't repeat them. I would say this guy has a problem with rules and regulations and playing nice.
You deserve peace and quiet and a life without him in it. You keep your guard up and don't hesitate to call the police. It's called self preservation.
trisha9054
Trisha...you just said it all. I plan on getting thru this and I will do what has to be done, even though I would rather not. I would rather just be left alone by him and his family, but since they won't to play these stupid little mind games...lets do it, because I'm not afraid to call the police on him. I don't want to have to, but I will damn well do it if he shows up at my door.
Thank you Dawn and Silent for you encouragement too. I need this positive reinforcement right now, since the craziness has began. I appreciate all of you so much!
Katt1970
Oh Katt, I am sorry he is being such a baby ass. Everyone slips, don't be hard on yourself. You have a good strong attitude now...keep it going. I cannot believe his stupidity....less than a week and already he is breaking rules. It would be so nice if they just fell off the face of the earth...we would sleep and walk and just be so much more at ease.
Keep up the strong attitude and be safe. I think it might be time for a little road trip to Indiana....pets welcome. lol
Really big hugs and blessings for you...
LavenderMoon