Katt1970's Journal

OMG! What a messed up night last night was. I went with one of my sister-in-law's (HIS sister) and her friend for a "girls night out" before she gets married next week. Honestly, I didn't WANT to go, but my sister-in-law is so sweet and funny...and begged me to go, so I went to make her happy. I wanted her to have a fun night out.

What started out as the three of us ended up being the three of us, with one of my other sister-in-law's (also HIS sister and my friend of 13 years), her sister-in-law, and her sister-in-law's father's alcoholic girlfriend. Confused yet? Yeah, me too.

My sister-in-law/friend of 13 years and I aren't not in the best place in our relationship at the moment due to the fact that I didn't call her when her brother was trying to strangle me to keep him out of jail, but instead called the cops on him. 3 days after the incident she informed me that we needed to put our friendship aside for now, as she needed to be there for HER brother. Okay, fine. I respect that. He needs someone to be there for him...I guess.

Now, me and my sister-in-law/friend of 13 years have a long history. She was married to an alcoholic, who did not physically abuse her, but cheated on her every chance he got. I cannot count the times I have been woke up in the middle of the night by her crying and wanting advice as to what to do about him and how to get out of the mess she was in.

She left, went back, left, went back, etc. for about 4 years before she finally left for good. She left everything behind except their young daughter and never went back. I was so proud of her. She finally did it.

A little over a year later her husband (they never got a divorce) killed himself. It was very tragic and she blamed herself. She went through all of the emotions of that awful experiance.

Now, she's moving on a dating a guy who suppliments his income with not necessarily LEGAL means. Whatever! That's his business and I don't want to know about it.

About 6 months ago, I started getting the late night calls from her about him. She tends to drink too much when she's upset. Signs of an alcoholic? Probably so. I tried to be there for her, but I was having my own problems with HER brother, so maybe I wasn't the best friend I could possibly be.

To make an already long story short...her and her loser boyfriend were fighting last night and guess who she called to come to her rescue? I was so annoyed! I wanted to have a good night with my sister-in-law who is getting married, not baby sit the other sister-in-law/friend of 13 years who already stressed the fact that we needed to sit our friendship aside so that she could be there for HER brother.

Ugh! When she got totally trashed, she made an already awkward situation worse, by telling her sister she didn't need to get married, that all men were jerks, and then turning to me and asking me if I wanted to "talk about how much life sucks". NO! I do not want to talk about that with YOU!

She ruined her sister's night with her drama and upset me so much I had to leave. Don't get me wrong. I love her and she is still my friend, but right now I can't deal with her problems. I have enough of my own. If that makes me a bad friend, then I guess I'm a bad friend, but she drew the line in the sand and I respected that. She can't change the rules just because she's having another arguement with her boyfriend.

I know I need to limit my contact with his family. I just wanted to get past last night. It was important to his little sister that I go with her and her friend. I had no idea that the other women would be going along too. If I had known...I would have stayed home. 

Now, I start my retreat from associating with them as much. It's simply to hard to be there with them and not feel uncomfortable, even though I love them. I can love them and be friendly from a distance.