CheriS's Journal

I sent my stbx a text with my terms in it, just stated I wanted $600 a month spousal support for 5 years and he keep the cell phone on thru next Feb when the contract runs out.  Told him to get lawyer to draw up the papers.  I won't push for him to carry health insurance.  Told him if he didn't agree then EVERYTHING can come out in public courtroom, not just the adultery and abandonment, then we can let a judge decide what's fair. 

Well of course he hit the roof, told me to go to hell, that all he wants is an address for his lawyer to send papers to.  Then the real nasty messages started of course, as usual, with throwing my past mistakes up in my face, telling me I think I know stuff but I dont (he has no clue what I really know and won't until the time is right)... also telling me I'm a known thief and a liar with a criminal record (in reference to the gambling addiction I developed at the beginning of our marriage and the fact that i got into trouble with the law over it) and that i'm slinging "shit" but that's what's expected of me... then I guess when he had time to think about things it was  "why dont you go your way and I go mine, you dont need me and I dont need you, You only need yourself"..  and then my favorite..  "You and your threats, just what do you think they will accomplish? You think it's gonna hurt me? Your so stupid.  U wanna hurt my family after all they did for you".   So I finally responded back to him after a few hours and told him I just stated my terms nicely, but again he had to make threats and be nasty,  Meet my terms or not, the choice is his.  I also told him I'm not ashamed of what I did (the trouble I got into gambling), I regret it but he cannot hold it over my head anymore, everyone already knows all about it.  He thinks he can keep throwing my mistakes at me and it will make me feel ashamed and cower down to his crap.  NOT!  It also has nothing to do with finalizing our seperation/divorce.  If it bothered him so badly he should have left right then in the beginning when he found out about it and when I BEGGED him to leave and I would give him a divorce.  Not throw it in my face 7 years later.  I also told him I was not the one who did anything to hurt anyone, including his family.  But I reminded him that he did not care how much he hurt me, or how much he has hurt my mother after all the help she has given us as well and just left it with it's his choice how things play out.

Hopefully he will wake up and realize the terms I gave him are very fair and just get it over and done with.