CheriS's Journal

Well I had my first recent contact with the stbx yesterday afternoon and early this morning.  He started calling me and texting me because he was angry I took half of the amount of deposit I paid for the house we were renting when we were together, from the joint account we have.  He was angry because he is the only one with income so I have not touched it until now and he has been trying to get me to give him my checks and bankcard, which I told him I would not do until my name was no longer on that account.  He was also angry because he was blowing his whole paycheck and ended up being overdrawn.  But I got thru his nasty, angry tirade and was able to respond in a way that I have not in a long time, I didn't get upset, I didn't get angry, I just stated the facts as they are and told him he can deal with it however he wants to deal with it.  His feelings and problems are no longer my concern.  He convienently forgets that it was my paycheck that initally paid the first months rent and full deposit when we moved into that house almost 2 years ago because he had been out of work for almost year and had not yet even gotten a paycheck from the new job he started.  I thought I was completely fair, I only took one half, instead of all of it and now he can deal with the landlord in getting it returned to him since he still lives in that state and I don't.  I did my part,  I cleaned up the house after I moved my things out of it, and he had ample amount of time to get his things out before our time was up (there wasn't much of his left).  I refused to be punished because he did not get his things out in a timely manner.  That was his responsibility and he shrugged it off just as he is all the other bills and just as he did with our marriage.

He swears i'm doing this for revenge, and I laughed when he said that because nothing could be farther from the truth.  Revenge would have been to take every penny he had in there and leave him the 17 cents he left me.  True revenge is getting my life back, losing this weight (FOR ME, not for anyone else), getting back in shape, and moving forward with my life, which is exactly what i'm doing. I've lost a little bit of weight (my clothes are fitting better) but have a long way to go.. I'm exercising every day.. I've reconnected with a couple of old friends and have been getting out of the house, I've joined a couple meetup groups, a coffee social and a photography group and I'm volunteering some of my time to work with developmentally challenged young adults.  I almost feel like the old me once more, alive, strong and confident in who I am and what I want out of life.  I am LIVING LIFE AGAIN!  That is the best revenge of all :)