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LauraSam 
11:32pm, August 28, 2009
I went to my best friend's daughters wedding yesterday. It was very lovely. The bride was beautiful and the groom was so happy. They wrote their own vows, the priest was funny, the reception was fun, everything was perfect. But all I could think of was my daughter. What if she chose to get married and didn't invite me?! What if she had a baby and didn't tell me?! I cried so much yesterday mostly because I felt my loss so deeply. But I kept smiling and congratulating everyone and moving forward and I made it through!
I feel better today. But my birthday is in a few days and I know I won't hear from her. I know that because she ignored Mother's Day and if she could do that she can do this. So on Wednesday I will once again suffer the pain of loss and cry and try to move on. I will go out to dinner with my other two daughters and smile and thank them and try to act as though I am okay. Well actually I am okay for the most part - it's just sometimes that it's unbearable, which I think is a great improvement.
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My son won't give any recognition for my birthday, father's day, or anything else. His birthday is in three weeks and I know that it will hurt me not to be able to speak with him. My daughter and sister speak with him on occasion but other than that we never hear a peep from him. Your last sentence is how I feel. It will be 7 months at the end of this month since I've heard from him and it really, really hurts. I do cherish my daughter who is 2 1/2 years older than my son.
apirian54
I wasn't invited to my daugher's wedding---three years ago--and we are still estranged. It wasn't easy but I have survived and I know that what is important is that her marriage is strong and she married a good man. The wedding was just an event on that day---the rest of her life is important. She chose to hurt me in that way and I feel sorry for her as I know that she may someday, if not already, truly regret that decision which she can't take back. I have wide shoulders and I can carry that loss. You'd be surprised what strength you possess as you miss your children. Feel good about the past and what you did offer them. Just get through each day. Don't project too far ahead and don't "write scripts" in your head that may or may not occur.
dylanb