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tjay2111
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About Me
Married, highly educated professional...Married 20 years first time to a mildly abusieve man, two children. Married 2 years to a man who appears to be Mr. Wonderful to the world but secretly is much worse...Dr. Jekyl/Mr.Hyde type. Two small children.
Married, highly educated professional...Married 20 years first time to a mildly abusieve man, two children. Married 2 years to a man who appears to be Mr. Wonderful to the world but secretly is much worse...Dr. Jekyl/Mr.Hyde type. Two small children.
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TJ, I have made so many friends from this avatar...It's a free one from a free site, I don't know who it is, but the baby looked very wise to me...LOL. Hugs...
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I had the same regret (and slept in another room also for most of the last 5 years)....it was for my son tho, I wished he hadn't had to live his life in that dysfunction. But....now, we both look forward...Hugs to you....
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Hi Tjay,
I feel for you, for your family and feel the scars. It's awful I would like to be your friend. This stuff is something you can't swallow, whole or otherwise.
There are many wonderful people at DS that will give you resources, from their own experience. I hope to be one of them. Hugs, RB
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Mine says we live in a slum because the neighbors don't keep their yards up to his standards. Some of his issues -- driveways, paint color, toys in the front yard, a boat in the driveway temporarily (7 days).
Our neighborhood isn't McMansion ... it's the next step down. He's obsessive about the neighbors.-
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Mine has to approve everything the boys -- 10 & 12 -- wear before we go somewhere. Can't have them reflecting poorly on him. ... Oh, but he's mad if I spend much money on their clothes.
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Close Physical & Emotional Abuse
I need support because no one would ever believe what I am going through at home. My husband lost his job last August and since then his controlling and abusive behavior has escalated substantially and he will not listen to me. He says I am the one with a problem and points out everything I have ever done wrong in our entire marriage. I feel like I am being gaslighted. I love him but it is starting to drive me to drink.
Treatments
- Forgiveness Not Working
- I forgive him for hurting me, but he does not EVER forgive me for "provoking" him.
- Talking Not Working
- I am not permitted to talk. If I do interrupt him to try to say something, I am told our problems are all caused by my mouth.
Close Interracial Relationships
I have an interracial marriage and we have two biracial children.
Open Smoking Addiction & Recovery
I am here because I need to quit smoking but I am really, really bad at it!!!
Treatments
- Cold Turkey Not Working
- Nicotine Gum Not Working
- Nicotine Patch Not Working
- Wellbutrin Not Working
- Willpower Not Working
