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nannielee 
1:23pm, October 13, 2009
So here I am finally deciding to do something obout myself. I have been through allot of different surgeries because I have Lupus and RHA. I have been finally telling people that I am going to be having a gastric bypass. the responce is anywhere from, hopefully it will help your jionts, to why you don't need it??? I have two sisters who are both against it and said that they can not support me. This is the only uncomfortable psrt of the whole trip so far. All others are very supportavie. I keep thinking that maybe I need to prove to my sisters that this is the best chioce for me, wait and see!!! However they do not talk to me about it at all. I hope to have the surgery in Sept or Oct. Right know I am 268 lbs and very unbcomfortable in my cloths and myself. This is the heaviest that I have been in 18 yrs.I found this support group and have been reading daily for about a week. I think that it is terrific support!!! Looking forward to my new changes.
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Hi NannieLee,
How brave of you to chart this course without the support of you sisters. I think this could be an answer for you. Last year my mother had two total knee replacements (Jan & Oct), this year my sister started taking meds for diabetes, and in a few weeks all three of us are have gastric bypass. I know my mother thinks now, if she had the RNY sooner she could have held off the knee replacements until she was older. Hopefully for me I can battle obesity before comorbidities develop. I have been researching this surgery for about a year and in so many cases it resolves so many health problems. Find the support you need to keep moving in the right direction, and your family will come around when they see your success. At this point they are probably just scared for you.
all the best!
-Angela
energy14
Thank you, it's clearly tuff when we get togather. My brother in law told me that "He thinks that I am the best looking of all my sisters" My husband said "why should that matter, she wants to be healthier" Then an argument started about why should she bother etc.... Ahhh it's hard to listen to this stuff ha?
nannielee
by the way thank you for your kindness!
nannielee