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About Me
ExMrsK
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About Me
Single mom of three children, sharing custody with excellent co-parent. Good place in life -- healthy, good job, good support network.
Single mom of three children, sharing custody with excellent co-parent. Good place in life -- healthy, good job, good support network.
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October 22
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ExMrsK commented on Katt1970’s journal entry I'm back online...finally! 11:29pm
Hey there - it is a rough road, there is no question. You are doing great -- and know that it is completely…
October 20
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ExMrsK updated their status 10:55pm
just when I thought I'd never get through, I DID!…
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ExMrsK changed their mood to Excellent 10:55pm
October 7
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ExMrsK commented on Katt1970’s journal entry Trying to find myself. 8:01pm
Awww ... you know what? If you don't want to see anyone or talk to anyone, don't. Honour yourself and…
October 5
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ExMrsK gave vonniedisley a gold star 1:23pm
Your last two posts have been excellent -- informative and validating. Thank you!…
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Ray of Sunshine
Thank you so much for your words of wisdom regarding my journal entry. I hope you're right and this depression is just a phase that I will get past. I think knowing he's out of jail and hearing his voice set it off...then on top of that feeling like I have no one to talk out my emotions with while I was off line did a number on me. Coming to DS, journaling, and exchanging support and encouragement with my DS friends has been the main factor in my coming as far as I have...in such a short time. I still have a long way to go though. Thank you for being here for me.
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I'm so glad anything I post can help....You are very welcome....I just read your letter to him...It made me sad because it brought me back to when i wrote the exact same kind of letters to him....Its sad because they love to know that you are missing them..They love to hear of your hurt..and they also love to negate you further...By not responding in any decent way....My advis would be please don't give him any more of those..because you might regret it as much as I did...Looking back now i hust played into his control trip....Where he could see his abandonment in action?...They don't deserve our feelings good or bad only indifferent.....Like the indifference they love to hurt us with....keep going forward...One day you will wonder what you ever saw in him?....I'm there now..and although I was very lonely and hurt at first....I now see that its a fantastic place to be..Big Hugs!
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Hi Ex! I just wanted to pop in and say hi. I hope you're having a great weekend and all is well with you.
Hugs!
Cristi
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Close Physical & Emotional Abuse
At the age of 38, I started in a relationship with an abusive man. I didn't know he was abusive. He is an orthodontist, successful, wealthy, and outwardly warm and kind. Our relationship was not great, but not terrible-unbearable. He was verbally and emotionally abusive, but I didn't see it for what it was. I married him. 4 weeks later, on our honeymoon, an episode of impotence triggered a 5-days long rage, culminating in an attack to my face. Unsuccessful attempts at reconciliation.
Treatments
- Abuse Counseling Working / Worked
- Counsellor with spec. in Abuse by Intimate Partner. Helped me to understand the dynamics of situations with my man. "He abuses because he is an abuser". Helped to de-personalize the attacks. Understood the dynamics and associated mixed feelings and ongoing confusion.
- Group Therapy Considering
- Painful to listen to others' experiences, made me feel worse, rather than better. Understanding abuse and heard how common it is, has not made coping with it any easier.
- Psychotherapy Working / Worked
- Yes, with anti-depressants, which helped to even out the Post Traumatic Stress and the obsessive thoughts. Side effects of getting off meds were unpleasant, but manageable.
- Talking Working / Worked
- Helps to talk with supportive, informed women. Not so helpful talking to my mother, who just doesn't understand the complexities. Wanted and tried to talk to my husband, who just didn't get it. He never acknowledged the abuse.
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