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misshimsooo 
12:04pm Wednesday
Hello my favorite ladies.
I know you are all busy these days, but if you could indulge
me and give me some ideas for a memorial tribute to my
son, Troy, whose 1st angel anniversary with be oct 29th,
it will be greatly appreciate.
My son, Troy will turn 28 on Oct 19th, Monday, and his
1st angel anniversary will soon follow on Oct 29th.
I mentioned to a few friends who have remained close
that I was planning a balloon release at his graveside.
It sounds now like there be may more people showing up
than I had anticipated.
I don't want to turn the memorial into a circus, but I would
like to honor my son's memory that day around the people that
have kept his memory alive.
I ordered balloons for the release.
I also have a poem to read that I have copied from the hospice group i
attend. I posted it prior in a journal entry........."We Remember Them"
I was going to insert Troy's name in place of them.
I was also going to pass out a few of Troy's favorite things to eat,
Double decker tacos and green bean burritos from Taco Bell, Dr. Pepper
and Butterfinger candy bars (this may sound tacky, but i guess i am
the point, i dont care what others think too much anymore.
If any of you wonderful ladies have any ideas or would share what
you may have done at a memorial, i would greatly appreciate hearing
from you.
I love you ladies. You are the strongest, most genorous women I know.
I am so glad I have you in my life, not the reason I have you in my life,
but you all do make the journey softer and kinder at times. I love you,
donna
Comments
Two such heart felt dates back to back. I will be thinking of you! It sounds as if you are planning what will speak to you and those that loved Troy and that is what matters. Have you considered or already established a "living" memorial? We donated a lightly used piano to a drug rehab establishment that the residents can enjoy. Doug loved music and found it very healing so it was a perfect memorial in his honor. I'm sure the other ladies will have some wonderful ideas too. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Love and Hugs, Joanie
Livingjuicy
I think that you have planned a wonderful and very touching tribute to your beautiful son. May the Lord be beside you and hold your hand through this sad and emotional time.
Love and light, Rebecca
rcoco
I think your plans are awesome and not one bit tacky. We have an annual golf tournament in Alex's memory...and the first year we had a baloon release...it was awesome. We have never had a memorial..but one of the things that one mom did was let there child's friends remember a special time they had shared. I guess you could ask the group if anybody wants to...I know whatever you do will be wonderful and mean more to you than anyone...love and hugs...Karen
biowoman
I think what you have planned is just fine...and yeah, who cares what anyone thinks. I wish you all the best as you face these dates so close together....I have only had Brandon's bd and it was arranged by my sister. It was a balloon release and cake and ice cream for just the immediate family at the highest elev. park in Florida. It was a beautiful day. Brandon's favorite soft drink was Dr. Pepper, too. God bless you,...Dale, Brandon's Mom
Kingsdaughter
thank you all. today on his birthday, the day was kind and gentle, surrounded by people who truly loved him. thank you so very much for all of your support. love, donna
misshimsooo
I think your plans sound like a great idea and a wonderful tribute to Troy. We also did the balloon release.....and wrote notes on our balloons before we released them. I hope the day will be filled with good memories of your wonderful son. Hugs, Kim
KimRW
I'm glad you were able to get through his birthday, surrounded by loving people. Such a blessing for you. I had a small memorial party for Shaun, some homemade food at a club, and brought a few momentos of his there - placed them on a table, and wine, a bottle of wine he had bought me as my last Christmas present to me, (I don't drink) & we opened it up - I read a few words, and we toasted him - holding hands in a circle. What ever you do, will be the right thing - bless you honey.
Denimari
thank you, and thank you all for sharing what you all did with memorials. love, donna
misshimsooo
This is kind of long but on Courtney's 1st angel day a wonderful friend gave me four candles and this poem:
Four Candles for You
by unknown
The first candle represents our grief.
the pain of losing you is intense
it reminds us of the depth of our love for you.
This second candle represents our courage.
To confront our sorrow
To comfort each other
To change our lives.
The third candle we light in your memory
For the times we laughed.
The times we cried.
The times we were angry with each other,
The silly things you did,
The caring and joy you gave us.
This fourth candle we light for our love.
We light this candle that your light will always shine.
We share this night of remembrance with our family and friends.
We cherish the special place in our hearts
that will always be reserved for you.
We thank you for the gift
your living brought to each of us.
We love you.
We remember you.
Love to you Donna- Mary Kay
Courtsmom
I think it sounds perfect. We had Nic's favorites at his 1st angel day memorial too. Skittles, cherry pepsi, cherry licorice and poptarts. My thoughts will be with you as you get through that day with love from your friends and family.
Julia
JulsMarie
thank you all so much, the weather is supposed to be bad, but even if i am the only one standing there with a balloon i will be there. love, donna thank you for your warm and caring thoughts
misshimsooo
You have been given wonderful ideas so I can't add much more and my reply is very late. I look forward to hearing what you decide to do. On my son's day, we went to his accident site, placed flowers and pondered how surreal it still seemed. Then on a lighter note, we did some anonymous (?) service for someone in need. It blessed me so much and lifted my spirits to be able to do something in honor of my son for someone who otherwise couldn't. We all do things differently and there is no right or wrong. They are missed and thankfully remembered. Love to you. Robin
Robin4
thank you all, there is a big snowstorm going on here. i was planning a balloon release with some of Troy's favorite foods after. even if i am the only one that shows, it will be fine with me. i think i need this for me. and left overs are great. love to you all, thank you so much for your support and kindness and love.
misshimsooo