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Good for you! I'm sure it was difficult to say the least, yet you were able to turn the day into something positive and beautiful. Give yourself a nice pat on the back! Hugs - BE SAFE - Nadine

I am so pleased the day had some positives. It is such a hard time. I love to hear about all the sons and daughters of mothers on DS. It helps to keep them with us. Love Charlotte.

Donna, I am so glad that this day was okay...I know that it was a great distraction to a painful day...take care of you and cherish the memories...love to you...Karen

How nice that you could observe this day in such a loving memorable way...I know it was hard...I dread March 6th....God bless....Dale, Brandon's Mom

Donna, I'm glad that you were able to spend the day with friends and family. I hope that brought you some comfort. Thank you for sharing it with us. Love, Kim

I am so glad that you were able to find comfort and peace among family on that bittersweet day. Unfortunately for me, I do not have family that would support me in such way but I will find comfort and peace within myself as we all must ultimately do. I face my son's first Angel Date later this month. Love and peace to you as you face the next years to come. Belinda

So glad the day went as well as it did. Thank you for sharing Troy with all of us. Love, Teri.

I know how hard this day is. Chad's first angel date, was September 6th. A very difficult day for me. I feel the same as you about our wonderful Mom's here. Hopefully, I will meet them at the next retreat.
Hugs, Barbara

I will be thinking of you with special love and prayers on this day. I'm sure Troy is chuckling! For me, leaning into all the feelings that came in last July 13th was the only way that I got through it. I believe I felt every one that day. Be gentle with yourself today and in the days following and knowing that we are not alone has been a life line for me too. God bless you and hug you tightly today dear Donna. Your friend, Joanie

I'm thinking of you, and saying a special prayer for you. And as always we are always here. Lots of love and hugs to you. Bev

I got through Jim's birthday on Oct. 13 with the help of my friends on here as well. Incredible people here.

I want you to know that I am here for you too!

Much love your way,

Sus

You are in my thoughts and prayers today, I don't know how we make either, but you are so right, faith and DS are the pillars of my healing process.
God bless, Rebecca

Dear Donna...I am with you today in spirit...you say what is in our hearts...how do we ever make it without our loves....how do we continue....our Lord who is our Savior and does know our sorrow and ANGER is the one who sends His angels to have charge over us...even in death..that transition to a new beginning. We are incomplete without His love, grace and mercy. I pray that you can lift up your eyes and know that behind that balloon trail is a mother's love ascending to the love of her son and the Father. I wish you peace. Love and hugs....Dale..Brandon's Mom

Even though it will be a hard day, just know that thoughts and special prayers are going out for you today. Love & Hugs, Kim

Oh sweet Donna, I hope that you feel the love and peace that you deserve today....my thoughts and prayers for a gentle day are with you...love you....Karen

Thinking of you and your family today. It is such an emotional day. Daily Strength has been such a blessing to me. Take care my friend. Love, Kelly.

I am writing this late and I hope the day went well. That year of "firsts" is over and hopefully you can breathe a sigh. It will still be difficult some days, probably many days, but now you sort of know what to expect. You have been a great friend to us as well. We are all strong together. Love to you. Robin

I know how hard it is for you and that 1st year ,your still in shock and thinking it's all a bad dream. I am so so sorry for your Loss of your son Troy.I hope you got through the Angel Day with strength, I know he would want you to be strong.God Bless You and Troy With Much Love, Katie

Two such heart felt dates back to back. I will be thinking of you! It sounds as if you are planning what will speak to you and those that loved Troy and that is what matters. Have you considered or already established a "living" memorial? We donated a lightly used piano to a drug rehab establishment that the residents can enjoy. Doug loved music and found it very healing so it was a perfect memorial in his honor. I'm sure the other ladies will have some wonderful ideas too. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Love and Hugs, Joanie

I think that you have planned a wonderful and very touching tribute to your beautiful son. May the Lord be beside you and hold your hand through this sad and emotional time.
Love and light, Rebecca

I think your plans are awesome and not one bit tacky. We have an annual golf tournament in Alex's memory...and the first year we had a baloon release...it was awesome. We have never had a memorial..but one of the things that one mom did was let there child's friends remember a special time they had shared. I guess you could ask the group if anybody wants to...I know whatever you do will be wonderful and mean more to you than anyone...love and hugs...Karen

I think what you have planned is just fine...and yeah, who cares what anyone thinks. I wish you all the best as you face these dates so close together....I have only had Brandon's bd and it was arranged by my sister. It was a balloon release and cake and ice cream for just the immediate family at the highest elev. park in Florida. It was a beautiful day. Brandon's favorite soft drink was Dr. Pepper, too. God bless you,...Dale, Brandon's Mom

I think your plans sound like a great idea and a wonderful tribute to Troy. We also did the balloon release.....and wrote notes on our balloons before we released them. I hope the day will be filled with good memories of your wonderful son. Hugs, Kim

I'm glad you were able to get through his birthday, surrounded by loving people. Such a blessing for you. I had a small memorial party for Shaun, some homemade food at a club, and brought a few momentos of his there - placed them on a table, and wine, a bottle of wine he had bought me as my last Christmas present to me, (I don't drink) & we opened it up - I read a few words, and we toasted him - holding hands in a circle. What ever you do, will be the right thing - bless you honey.

This is kind of long but on Courtney's 1st angel day a wonderful friend gave me four candles and this poem:
Four Candles for You
by unknown

The first candle represents our grief.
the pain of losing you is intense
it reminds us of the depth of our love for you.

This second candle represents our courage.
To confront our sorrow
To comfort each other
To change our lives.

The third candle we light in your memory
For the times we laughed.
The times we cried.
The times we were angry with each other,
The silly things you did,
The caring and joy you gave us.

This fourth candle we light for our love.
We light this candle that your light will always shine.
We share this night of remembrance with our family and friends.

We cherish the special place in our hearts
that will always be reserved for you.
We thank you for the gift
your living brought to each of us.

We love you.
We remember you.

Love to you Donna- Mary Kay

I think it sounds perfect. We had Nic's favorites at his 1st angel day memorial too. Skittles, cherry pepsi, cherry licorice and poptarts. My thoughts will be with you as you get through that day with love from your friends and family.

Julia

You have been given wonderful ideas so I can't add much more and my reply is very late. I look forward to hearing what you decide to do. On my son's day, we went to his accident site, placed flowers and pondered how surreal it still seemed. Then on a lighter note, we did some anonymous (?) service for someone in need. It blessed me so much and lifted my spirits to be able to do something in honor of my son for someone who otherwise couldn't. We all do things differently and there is no right or wrong. They are missed and thankfully remembered. Love to you. Robin