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wildbill5717 
8:14am Yesterday
I've concluded that the "roller-coaster" analogy is not totally correct, at least in my case. My grief does, however, remind me of going to the amusement park when I was a kid. The rides that go round and round always made me sick. It's just like that - spending the day getting sick, then as soon as i felt better i would go on another ride and get sick again and occasionally puke. In between getting sick I would go on the roller-coaster and bumper-cars - the only rides that didn't make me sick - they just scared the hell out of me. Yep, just like the amusement park.
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I am there with you, the in between getting sick does get just a little farther apart and not quite as severe. Praying for you.
Christine
sadheart56
The rides that go round and round still make me sick!! lol Oh, Bill, it is such a terrible ride -- the one that we are on. This first year, that you are in now, is so hard! I'm not going to say it isn't. The 2nd one, for me, hasn't been a 'fun time' either. But, as I have told you before, and others, and as Christine said -- the times do get farther apart -- as we move along in this grief business, and become a little less severe -- as the months march along. That probably isn't very comforting, but it is how it is. I've been in the downward mode of the "rollercoaster" lately, but, am hoping to begin the climb back up the rails of time soon, although those rails do get slippery at times. God Bless and keep you. HE is the main comfort in any of the stages, especially, when we feel the lowest and do not think HE is there. That's when HE is carrying us. Joely
Joely
Bill, Joely is right - the year is so hard. I guess we use the roller coaster analogy as we all seem to go up then down then up then down etc. Christine is right the in between getting sick does get farther apart. No matter what the ride, it is one that we all want to get off and never ride again. "May the Lord bless you and keep you: May the Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious unto you: May the Lord lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace."
JazyJo
Bill - I don't think I've ever heard the grief journey expressed quite this way! But it makes a lot of sense, especially the getting sick part. My experience is like the others' - sometimes I don't feel like it's any different, but when I compare how I feel now to how I felt a year ago, it is different indeed. The missing Joe and grieving him is with me always - but other parts of myself have emerged alongside, parts I wasn't sure were there anymore. Hang in there - hugs, marsha
marjoe