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I told her I would have to get some counselling to get through this-so this is the start of it, I need some feedback
-so far I have been nothing but helpful and calm while she tries to get it together to get out
but I am starting to feel a little pathetic in trying to work things out
I gave her $5000 for the down payment
-I have been critical in the past and while I admit when I am wrong (and I am sometimes) I am right some too but night before last while she's getting drunk on the deck she says right doesn't matter-its not important-
its not important to eat as a family
its not important to pay down debt
its not important to get the laundry done or keep the house cleaned up-and in my own defense none of the above ever approach anything close to anal compulsive-it doesn't hurt to eat dinner in front of the TV as a family event or even sometimes-but I don't think nightly episodes of Bones qualify as a family event-the kids don't want to watch it-she'll go in there and they go play Club Penquin, Command and Conquer and Facebook in their rooms,plate and drink in hand (we have 3)
she doesn't know their teacher's names, who their friends are, who their enemies are or if they have clean clothes to wear to school tomorrow-I have learned alot at the dinner table
it doesn't hurt for their to be bookbags in the family room or some dishes in the sink or some laundry piled up in the laundry room but it does seem to me during commercials of Jeopardy or Buffy the Vampire, a load could go in the washer/dryer/dishwasher and even if she doesn't do it I will and I do, even quietly, without a word or a sneer or an attitude-I know that because I have to admit those things have been there in the past -
but that was years ago-70k in credit card debt ago-and before I had a lawyer
I don't feel any better so I think I will quit crying and wait on y'all to comment
