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she is still there and tells me if I act rite she will stay there until she moves-I took the kids out of town so they wouldn't have to watch their mother move out

Thursday,Friday Saturday and tomorrow, told the oldest first-16 and in pieces, told the 14 yr old later-he is still thinking about it but has said he thinks, well he just hasn't decided yet but has always had a it'll work out attitude-and he is rite, it will-its not like this is terminal cancer

the 12 yr old is really about 10 maturity wise and his mother has always babied him so I am worried-hey guys:

she told me she would move out-just get her stuff and go-she has plenty of family and a storage space to hold everything she wants-I have begged her to stay, lets make it work-twice she has said she would and 24 and 48 hrs later she said she just can't and here we go again

so I am through begging, through negotiating, through everything and when she said " just let me go" I said "bye" but she won't go-said it'll take 3-4 weeks to close on her house? for her to move-she has already agreed to joint custody-she can't afford them anyway and they know, they know who takes care of stuff-all the stuff where we live now-

anyone know this trick? Any hints? Anyone seen this behavior before?Can I get a woman's perspective?

 when you tell someone you are not going to be their friend anymore, you are not going to be the only friend they have anymore then you should have to give them something or someone in return - a replacement of sorts. You shouldn't be able to just quit without warning-Just pull the whole rug out from under and be able to say o, so sorry.

I don't think she knows what love is and I guess it was bound to happen

I hate the children are going to find out about this-I hate they are going to look at their mother this way especially after all the years I have told them they couldn't

Maybe they won't have to. Maybe this will be the one thing she finishes. Maybe she won't turn out like her mother, cold and unfeeling and so self absorbed nothing mattters, its none of her business and not her concern

Maybe they won't be influenced by her family

I guess its my fault. I should have known, I should have done the right thing in the beginning