My husband of 27 years passed away 16 months ago on Monday, I feel your pain and I am not sure when if ever thaat it gets easier.I miss him everyday and sometimesd its hits me like someone had punched me in the stomach.I know I have to go on. Some times I need someone to talk to and feel like with him gone there is no one.That is why I joined this group.I am new also but have found some solace in the words and strength of the others.I know you will too.I am here to talk if you need me.
kaki1960 Thank You... you discribed me to a t, when you said sometimes you need someone to talk to and since your husband is gone you have no one. That's exactly how I feel. I miss my husband very much. I cry everyday. I feel like everyones life goes on but MINE. I think of my husband with everything I do. He's there but he's not here.
I try to go on with things I know he would want me to do.I see him everywhere and sometimes that is bad but sometimes it is good.Memories are all we have now and they can wrap around us like a warm blanket or they can tear our heart out but, we have to remember the good times because those are the memories that keep them alive within us. They aren't gone from us they have just moved on to another place. I think like the Heidi movie..everytime we speak of them we bring them to life in heaven. I don't know if it ever gets easy.I have talked to people who lost their husbands and they have told me it took them 3 or more years befor they realized they weren't coming home.Sometimes I catch myself waiting and then realize he isn't coming home. I want so much to talk to him and I do sometimes. You suddenly realize there is no one on this earth who you are the most important thing in the world to now that he is gone. Your children love you,maybe sisters,brothers,friends but no one loves you like he did. That is the thought that haunts me .
My husbands name is Dean. I miss him very much. I talk to him all the time. I also find myself waiting for him to come home. I know he's not coming home but that doesn't stop me from looking out the window watching for him. I find myself doing that a lot. There are times I think oh I can't wait to tell Dean..... then it dawns on me he's not here, he's not coming home and that really hurts.
Hi MeTee and Kaki. I was reading someone else's journal and then somehow found my way here. I also lost my husband 17 months ago on Jan 4, 2008. By the way, his name is Dean too. I can relate to all that you're saying here. I've come a long ways as far as not being able to function so well in the beginning. It gets a little easier but my goodness, it still hurts so much at times. Especially when you're faced with things that you've never had to do on your own before. There's so many things I've had to learn and I take pride in those new accomplishments whether it be learning to use the riding mower, learning to fix things, digging up stubborn weed trees that are taller than me, and the list goes on and on. Most of the time I talk to my husband during and after these times and I believe he's with me every step of the way as I find my way through the months without him. But then there are days and nights, like the other night when I was upset over something and I looked up at the stars and the moon on that clear night and asked him - are you watching all of this, do you hear me when I talk to you? I have to believe he does as that's the only way I'm doing all of this. Just wanted the two of you to know that you are so not alone. Every feeling you feel, every tear you shed, every ache you feel, I know what you're going through. Hugs to both of you, Judi
My husband of 27 years passed away 16 months ago on Monday, I feel your pain and I am not sure when if ever thaat it gets easier.I miss him everyday and sometimesd its hits me like someone had punched me in the stomach.I know I have to go on. Some times I need someone to talk to and feel like with him gone there is no one.That is why I joined this group.I am new also but have found some solace in the words and strength of the others.I know you will too.I am here to talk if you need me.
kaki1960
kaki1960 Thank You... you discribed me to a t, when you said sometimes you need someone to talk to and since your husband is gone you have no one. That's exactly how I feel. I miss my husband very much. I cry everyday. I feel like everyones life goes on but MINE. I think of my husband with everything I do. He's there but he's not here.
MeTee
I try to go on with things I know he would want me to do.I see him everywhere and sometimes that is bad but sometimes it is good.Memories are all we have now and they can wrap around us like a warm blanket or they can tear our heart out but, we have to remember the good times because those are the memories that keep them alive within us. They aren't gone from us they have just moved on to another place. I think like the Heidi movie..everytime we speak of them we bring them to life in heaven. I don't know if it ever gets easy.I have talked to people who lost their husbands and they have told me it took them 3 or more years befor they realized they weren't coming home.Sometimes I catch myself waiting and then realize he isn't coming home. I want so much to talk to him and I do sometimes. You suddenly realize there is no one on this earth who you are the most important thing in the world to now that he is gone. Your children love you,maybe sisters,brothers,friends but no one loves you like he did. That is the thought that haunts me .
kaki1960
My husbands name is Dean. I miss him very much. I talk to him all the time. I also find myself waiting for him to come home. I know he's not coming home but that doesn't stop me from looking out the window watching for him. I find myself doing that a lot. There are times I think oh I can't wait to tell Dean..... then it dawns on me he's not here, he's not coming home and that really hurts.
MeTee
Hi MeTee and Kaki. I was reading someone else's journal and then somehow found my way here. I also lost my husband 17 months ago on Jan 4, 2008. By the way, his name is Dean too. I can relate to all that you're saying here. I've come a long ways as far as not being able to function so well in the beginning. It gets a little easier but my goodness, it still hurts so much at times. Especially when you're faced with things that you've never had to do on your own before. There's so many things I've had to learn and I take pride in those new accomplishments whether it be learning to use the riding mower, learning to fix things, digging up stubborn weed trees that are taller than me, and the list goes on and on. Most of the time I talk to my husband during and after these times and I believe he's with me every step of the way as I find my way through the months without him. But then there are days and nights, like the other night when I was upset over something and I looked up at the stars and the moon on that clear night and asked him - are you watching all of this, do you hear me when I talk to you? I have to believe he does as that's the only way I'm doing all of this. Just wanted the two of you to know that you are so not alone. Every feeling you feel, every tear you shed, every ache you feel, I know what you're going through. Hugs to both of you, Judi
JudiB