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Paige42986 
9:09am, October 13, 2009
I am just trying to figure out the concept of forgivenss. How am I supposed to forgive the man who was my first love who I married and who hurt me by his abuse and violence. How can I forgive the man who abandoned his firstborn son without a backward glance. How can I forgive a man who shows no remorse for what he did to us? The concept goes over my head! Everyone who I have worked with in counseling has told me I have to forgive in order to heal. Isn't it enough that I don't passionately hate the guy anymore? I can't say if my heart will ever be capable of the concept of forgiveness. I am trying to get there but I am not sure I ever will.
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Forgivness...
Wow, now that is a huge concept to try and deal with. I had a simular issue with my father, not only did he abuse us three boys but he totally abused my two older sisters in a way that was unforgiveable! Though he's passed away his damage that he left is still painful to all five of us who are still trying to live as normal of a life as we can. The pain he left in his wake is and always will be troubleing to us all. My sisters will never be free from his grip of terror that he's left them with. Though they have forgiven him, they'll never forget the pain he caused them; they are 59 & 61 years old and still seeing a professional doctor about the abuse they suffered. They're in bad shape from this mans wrath. Forgiveness? That's a tough issue! I feel your pain Paige, and I understand your deliema.
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