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rayne9 
11:53am Tuesday
I was feeling SO good about finding out I was going to the beach tomorrow, going to see my son, Kris and my stepdad. I called Kris to tell him the good news. He recently started dating a new girl, so Patrick and I were singing, Kris has a new girlfriend...just for fun. Looks like he didn't appreciate that at all. He told me that I was immature and when he brought his new girlfriend over to meet me that I had better not do anything to embarress him or else he would no longer be seeing me! I said that I'd never embarress him, he said I needed to act my age. What? Act half freaking dead? I can't act happy at all for fear of him being embarressed? After promising that I'd behave he said it wasn't that, it was ME period. In other words, I guess I act stupid? After hanging up I couldn't help but think about what he had said. What am I wearing a sign that says HURT ME? After yesterday, my aunt's bullshit and now this? Damn, I cannot even recover from one before being hit by another! I knew I'd be making a mistake but said screw it and called him back. I left a message saying that he had really hurt me and didn't he know that I would move "heaven and earth" for him, how much I SO loved him? He hasn't called back, no surprise there. I've decided that if I AM that much of an embarressment that I don't even WANT to meet her! I HAVE NEVER shown anything but respect when meeting his girlfriends, how could he say that to me of all people? Jeez, another stab in the heart, MAN! Now I'm upset, don't EVEN WANT to go, I just don't know. It's as if he did this on purpose, oh yeah, then he says,"that's why I live in Va. and you live in NC!" What the HELL is that supposed to mean?
I GIVE UP
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Sounds like he's learned his Narcissistic behavior well. I would never speak to my mother that way. If I did, she would tell me to kiss her ass...and mean it.
c140cfi
To me it sounds like he's into his issues, and you're into your issues, and at some point, one of you is going to have to be the adult here and look beyond that. Since he just got back from Iraq, I'm guessing that he is struggling to reestablish himself in the States, and he probably doesn't even have half a clue as to what that entails. I know it's easier said than done, but if I were in your shoes, for the time being at least, I would just try very hard to "let it all go" where your son is concerned. Sometime later, after he's begun to adjust to civilian life, you shouldn't have to cut him so much slack.
I've heard that there is counseling available for GIs and family members to help with the readjustment period. Perhaps you could investigate that?
I don't know if this is helpful or not, or if perhaps you're even a little mad at me, but that's the way I'm seeing things right now. I really hope that you can work this out. It's important for BOTH of you! Love you much, Sue
Sue825
Oh boy, we could be sisters. I love my kids with all my heart too, and they have done the same thing to me also at times. I think if they have seen any negativity between their parents, plus it is hard to raise teenagers period, they seem to lose the respect that we should be given.
I like to think I gave my kids the best parenting I could, something I sure never got at times, and sometimes kids that are given too much in my opinion, feel everyone, even the parents that gave them alot of good things, to behave in uppity, hurtful ways. I would die for my kids too.
It is immaturity and one day they will see what how they hurt you was wrong.
joely35