Journal Entry for November 1, 2009
November 1, 2009 6:09pm
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myboys4ever 
2:42pm, November 12, 2009
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About Me
myboys4ever
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About Me
I am the mother of two wonderful boys ages 11 and 8 yrs. old. I have been happily married to my husband for three years. After suffering from domestic violence by the hand of my ex-husband, I am scared by post-tramatic stress syndrome. I have had full custody since the divorce in 03' but 14 months ago I lost custody to my ex (which I am fighting). This has been such a long road for me but extremely long for my kids. Their father got custody on "allegations" that were not true only to avoid paying child support. As for my other problem, weight loss, it has been a long journey. I had GBS in Feb. 2003. I weighed 288 and lost down to 151 which I thought was great. I felt better than ever. Then 16months ago when all that started with my boys somehow I gained all the way past my original weight, I went to 333lbs. I feel like such a failure. After seeing my surgeon and finding out that my pouch was still ok and intact I learned I had to do this on my own this time around I started first on meat, cheese, and eggs then I switched to 3 protein drinks a day and about 150oz. of water a day. So far I have lost 40lbs in two months and am soon starting Optifast and walking on a regular basis. I hope to lose 100lbs. by Christmas which will only put me about 30 lbs. from where I want to be. It can be done I know it just takes a lot of drive and disipline.
I am the mother of two wonderful boys ages 11 and 8 yrs. old. I have been happily married to my husband for three years. After suffering from domestic violence by the hand of my ex-husband, I am scared by post-tramatic stress syndrome. I have had full custody since the divorce in 03' but 14 months ago I lost custody to my ex (which I am fighting). This has been such a long road for me but extremely long for my kids. Their father got custody on "allegations" that were not true only to avoid paying
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Writing, Reading, spending time with my boys and my husband, sitting on the porch and just enjoying nature
Writing, Reading, spending time with my boys and my husband, sitting on the porch and just enjoying nature
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November 12
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myboys4ever updated their status 2:42pm
I am still fighting in court but it looks good for me right now, as far as...…
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Ok, here goes......my story is long and complicated! I got married to the kids dad when I was 17 and…
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When I read your message to me I broke down crying. This is sooo hard, it does seem that we have a lot…
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Babies coming home!!!
July 1, 2009 1:56am
Well, Looks like the boys are coming home the week of July 20th!!!! Yeah, I cannot believe it after 16 long months!We have prayed and prayed …
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Flower
Your such a nice person and may God bless you and give you strength because you deserve it.
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I'm glad my hug moved you. I had a good cry myself on Monday morning. This morning I spoke to my daughter's (Riley) grandmother. She is a devout Catholic and gave me some good spiritual guidance. I will try to remember it all so I can pass it on to you.
First, you asked me to tell you a little about my situation. Back in 2001 I gave sole custody of Riley to her father, Luke. I did so for many reasons. The primary reasons were that I found it too difficult to care for Riley on my own. I have an extremely serious case of bipolar disorder and the depressions are so bad that I can barely get out of bed. I didn't think it was fair for Riley to have a mother who lived in the bed. She was only 18 months old at the time. Luke has a huge family, whereas I hardly have any. At the time, I lived in Texas and my two sisters lived in Illinois. It was very important to me that Riley have close relationships with her cousins, aunts, uncles, and grandparents. Two months after custody transferred from joint to sole, Luke and Riley moved back to Illinois, where we were both raised and our families resided.
However, Luke moved in the traditional way - except that his girlfriend of only 2 months moved with him and my daughter. She and I had a blood feud and I was mortified that Luke would move in with a virtual stranger. I felt this was stupid, considering that his girlfriend, Angela, would be spending so much time with Riley. He had no idea what kind of step mother figure she would make. He is a fool and will always be a fool. But I have to kiss his ass or he won't let me have contact with Riley.
Anyway, before our move to Illinois and after Angela came into the picture, Luke stopped allowing me to see or speak with Riley. Because he is an attorney (and we lived in a tiny town near San Antonio, Texas so the police knew him) and I have bipolar, the entire law enforcement community catered to him. Meanwhile, I kept getting jailed for phone harassment and criminal trespass. I just would not learn my lesson. I felt that eventually someone would understand my pain and force Luke to let me communicate with Riley. My behavior merely served as justification for him to continue restricting contact. I was so stupid! I thought I could beat the system. Duh. In May of 2002 I was extradited from TX to IL. Luke Riley & Angela had already moved to IL in Oct 2001.
I was extradited because they had bumped my charges up to a felony charge of phone harassment. I find this ludicrous. If I was such a danger and "stalker" of Luke and Riley, why would they move me into the same state?! Anyway, that is the beginning of my saga. I must cook dinner now. Will write more in the morning.
Goodbye, Julia
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I read your post from the fifth of this month. I am going through a tough custody battle myself. My ex took off with my 10 year old. He fled to Texas. I live in Maine. Now she will hardly talk to me on the phone. It is breaking my heart. So I know how you feel.
I have been dealing with this crises only since June first, whereas it seems that you've been going through it for longer. This is actually my second go around with him. We had another blow up in the courts back in 2001/2002.
My ex is an attorney and he hired an attorney. I live on disability and cannot hire a lawyer. Do you have one??
Let's pray for one another to be reunited with our children. God is moving in our situations, we just have to be faithful and patient. He knows what is best for our children.
I'm here for you whenever you need support. I'm on DS several times a day, and will respond ASAP. 
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felt like hugging all of my friends, today!
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Close Child Support & Custody
My ex husband made false allegations against me and we have been in a horrible child custody battle. The kids have always been with me with the exception of the past 15 months. He has a history of domestic violence and not paying child support yet still has "temporary placement". We will fight until we bring my 2 boys home (ages 8 and 11)
Close Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
I was mentally, physically, and sexually abused by my ex-husband for 10yrs. My doctor finally gave a name to my symptoms-PTSD! This has been a long hard road.
Open Physical & Emotional Abuse
I was physically and mentally abused by my ex-husband for 10 yrs.
Treatments
- Divorce Working / Worked
Open Gastric Bypass Surgery
I had gastric-bypass in Feb. 2003. I went from 285lbs down to 151lbs. Kept it all off until about 1 yr ago then rapidly gained back up and over to 326lbs.
Open Infertility
Type: Ovarian Issuessupport with my own ifertility issues
