smurfette1

Close Hepatitis C

Diagnosed about a month ago with Hepatitis C. It is bugging me tremendously as to how I got this. I know I need to concentrate on either getting rid of it or living with it. People, when they find out, act as though they can get it just by looking at you. I feel like my whole life is over!

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Partner/Spouse

My husband died 2 years ago and I am still having a lot of trouble dealing with. Just need someone who uderstands.

Treatments

Crying Somewhat Helpful

Cry just anytime someone even says something about my husband. Try to remember that he is not in pain anymore & is in a much better place.

Getting Angry Not Working

Angry at God because my husband died at only 59. Don't understand wy he had to be taken away from me when I needed him so much. I try to pray and ask God to help me undertand. I do know that God didn't take him away but am still having a lot of trouble sometimes about getting angry.

Helping Others Considering

I would like to do some volunteer work helping veterans. My husband was a veteran of the Vietnam war. I believe this would be helpful to me. I always feel good when I do something for others.

Keeping Busy Somewhat Helpful

Try to stay busy with projects around the house, going to beach, going to lunch or dinner with friends. This is sometimes very hard if we go to a place where my husband and I use to go. I have several health problems and can't work. Wish I could so I could be around people. Have too much time by myself--not good!

Music Working / Worked

Yes, I love music. It helps to take me away from everything!

Prayer Somewhat Helpful

I have complete faith in God. Prayer helps sometimes. It just depends on how low I am feeling as to whether I believe it is helping.

Psychotherapy Not Working

I did try going to a psychiatrist but it didn't help. Maybe it was just the psychiatrist I had. She was not very organized and all we talked about in 4 trips was her kids and stuff in her life. Did not help me in the least. She prescribed me ambien which made me act crazy. Got up in the middle of the night rambling around the house and fell several times.

Reading Working / Worked

I have not read a lot about bereavement and grieving but I do read a lot. It helps to keep my mind occupied.

Remembering Not Working

It hurts too much to remember things we did together. All it makes me do is cry. I want to get to a point where I can remember and smile and laugh about things we did togeter.

Support from Friends & Family Working / Worked

I don't have a lot of family. Mom and Dad both gone. No brothers or sisters. However, do have cousins that are very supportive. Have several friends that knew my husband. I can cry with them and they don't judge me or try to tell me that it is time to move on.

Talking Somewhat Helpful

It really depends on who I am talking to. Long time friends are supportive and it is easy to talk to them. New friends, especially male don't seem to want me to talk about it. I was with my husband and taking care of him 24/7 so what else do I really have to talk about?

Time Not Working

I assume this means the time that has passed since my husband died. Well, it has been 2 years this July and time hasn't made any difference. It hurts just as much as it did the day he died.

Cymbalta Working / Worked

I was prescribed cymbalta in December 2006 mainly for fibromyalgia and also for depression. It really worked for a long time but doesnt seem to be doing very good now. I am on the maximum dosage. There have been no side effects from this medication.