Krallis

Close Bereavement
Type: Loss of a Parent

My father passed on from lung cancer 11/24/2008. Our relationship went beyond the father-daughter relationship for he also was diagnosed with schizophrenia over 30 years ago. I wore many hats in our relationship. He was not only a father, but friend and sometimes I took on the role of adult/conservator. Looking for others with complicated grief to share their feelings.

Treatments

Crying Working / Worked

I am at that grief stage where I cry like the tears of a child wanting tbe be consoled. I have many friends who have griefed for their loved ones, but find going on Daily Strength paints a picture with words that hit a cord!

Prayer Working / Worked

I am very spiritual and believe in the afterlife. I know that the soul/spirit continues to carry with it the intelligence, emotions and energy of the deceased, though they are no longer a physical being. I have contacted "mediums" not just for my father but when lost previous loved ones.

Remembering Working / Worked

I keep a jounal and document whenever an isolated memory surfaces; I find that writing down a recurring thought helps to dispel it from my memmory; sometimes I will document positive words and dialogue my father used when he was alive to honor his memory and have it documented so I can refer back to it whenever I feel insecure or need personal validation.

Support from Friends & Family Somewhat Helpful

Close friends will remind me of the unique and bond that my father and I shared, and further remind me of my strong character and tenaciousness when getting my father the services he needed, i.e. my devotion and love for him.

Support Groups Working / Worked

I had previously been in support group for my fiance who passed on and father (for siblings whose parents died of cancers)

Talking Working / Worked

Talking always helps with close family and friends; acquaintances are impartial and cannot appreciate the brevity of grief unless they have lost a significant loved one.

Time Working / Worked

I suppose time heals, however, some days you seem to back track!