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debbear 
9:50am Friday
Today would have been my X hubby's Birthday. He is 55 today. Even though we were divorced, we remained friends. He passed away on March 20, 2007. I had always hoped that he would get to meet My Bob some day, I guess that could still happen, depending on how you look at things.
Jeff had a high enough MELD score to make the transplant list, but one of the stipulations (because he wasn't rich and famous) was that he must be totally drug free for 6 months. (he had done IV drugs in the 70's, gave them up when a roomate was killed in a drug deal and he found the body............but he continued to smoke pot, probably his entire life, and drink beer)
Unfortunately, end stage liver disease is painful and the hospital (University of Arizona Medical Center) which was 3 miles from our home and where he was being treated, would not administer any pain meds because of the transplants rules. Apparently the pain was so intense he went to the ER at another hospital, they gave him morphine and sent him home with a hospice nurse. He was in peace and somewhat pain free. He passed away 48 hours later. (all this is hear say form my X BIL, since I wasn't there)
I hope he is resting in peace. Here is our story from 1997........................
http://nationalhepatitis-c.org/stories/2.htm
Comments
I believe that one day we will all get to meet - might not be exactly as we expect but I am sure that it will happen.
Guess today is a day of somewhat mixed emotions but at least he is out of pain now and at peace.
I just read the article you wrote about you and your X - very moving and thank you for sharing that with your DS friends.
Hathani
I haven't read the article yet, but I will.
Sorry, he is gone and I hope he is in peace, as well. So thoughtful of you to remember him! Hope you have a great day!
rbm
I'd be angry! I'm all for morphine at ESLD. What are we afraid of, theyll become addicts? Cuz of transplant guide lines, LOL, thats right gotta keep the positive statistics up there to get more funding, damn the pt suffering.
I empathize with the loss of your friend/ex, and hope on;y happy pleasant memories fill your heart today.
ptriss
Thank you for sharing your story and the web site. ((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
jkbearhug
Thank you for sharing!! (((((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))))))) Its just amazing the excuses they give us at hospitals. I'm sorry for your loss and I (like PTriss) hope your day is filled with the happiest of memories.
JuniorsGirl
Thanks for sharing your story, "Jeff & Deb's story".
Sorry to hear about your lost.
Sending you a gentle hug this am.
Truly appreciate all the love and support you have given me in the past few months.
Love Mckenzie
one day at the time.
Mckenzie
Awwww Deb,..Im so sorry
Thanks for sharing that story
They WILL meet, just not yet
ladystarr
((((((((( hugs)))))))))) may his memory remain with you always. xo
bobzcat
HUGS!!!
MonkeyButt
wow, i had never heard the "end" of your story.................... thanks for sharing.
WingedHorse