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Lilone57 
9:58pm, August 29, 2009
Okay.... So I was seeing this guy for a few months... he was really supportive in what I was going through and was helping me heal.... Then the other day I had a PTSD moment just because he forgot to leave me the key to his house. I flipped out and left.... which inturn made him flip out.....He gave me this stupid song and dance about how much he needs me and I wasnt there... which is a big fat line of BULLSHIT... I let my daughter live with her father so this man could have more time with me.... but when I got tired of not having my baby and moved her back with me.... he had a real issuse. Not with my daughter but the fact HIS time with me was cut..... I did not by any means let that get to me because I AM a mother before I am ANYTHING else and I made that very clear to him.... needless to say we are no longer...which in one part makes me sad cause we were really good together but on the other hand, Im happier..... losing something I THOUGHT was good made me open my eyes wide open to the world around me..... He made a comment to me the other day that I needed to learn to stand on my own two feet..... before I meet him, I had my own appartment, car and everything else all in my name...... and within days I reached a goal I've been wanting for a years and that a HOUSE not an appartment..... So tell me is that not stand on my own two feet.... Okay now I'm done venting.....
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You say you let your daughter stay with her father so you could have more time with your friend. When you decided to move her back, did you discuss it with him first, or did you spring it on him. The first step in maturing is to be able to stand and function alone. It seems you are making progress in this area. Learning to live happily with someone is a different skill set. It requires both parties being grown up, communicating effectively and making reasonable compromises. I speak from the experience of a 44 year marriage with a very difficult man, and now, 3 years after his death, building a wonderful relationship. Even so, we do occasionally have to work out issues and compromise.
PTSDwidow
I am slowly learning to stand alone.... Doing pretty good..... yes I talked to my friend and my daughters father.... you see, I give my daughter the choose on who she wants to live with and she wanted to live with her father at that time... Needless to say me and my 'friend' are done....
Lilone57