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About Me
Married for 10 years, before I became happily divorced for 15. From conception my focus has been my daughter and my son. After the divorce, I was determined my kids were not going to be stereotypical children of a single parent home. I never missed a parent teacher meeting, a game or a recital, we did everything together. I made sure after working 2-3 jobs that I came home and we sat down together for dinner to talk about the day, even if dinner was at 10 or 11 at night. My sisters thought I was crazy, but it was important. I really thought I had done a good job with them, no major issues or so I thought. I had a son in the service and a daughter very involved in the church. Then in late 2006, early 2007 my life did a complete 180 at the hands of my children and the relationship I once had with them has been on a downward spiral ever since. The same year this was going on with my kids, out of the blue, I met the most caring and understanding man. If I didn't believe in angels I certainly do now. Don't know how I would get through this without him. He and I married last year and one of the hardest things I've ever done was not to share that beautiful day with my children. I pray that this will get better, that the hurt will somehow become easier to bear, even though I know it will never go away. My hope is that one day we will all reconcile although I realize no-one knows what the future holds.
Married for 10 years, before I became happily divorced for 15. From conception my focus has been my daughter and my son. After the divorce, I was determined my kids were not going to be stereotypical children of a single parent home. I never missed a parent teacher meeting, a game or a recital, we did everything together. I made sure after working 2-3 jobs that I came home and we sat down together for dinner to talk about the day, even if dinner was at 10 or 11 at night. My sisters thought I was
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Travel, Writing and History. My 9 year old Golden Retriever.
Travel, Writing and History. My 9 year old Golden Retriever.
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Thanks for the support....and for being there. Donna
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Your vacation sounds fun....with some hurdles for you however. This site helps me....and sometimes I feel like I actually help others too.....but I have to take a break now and then for a week or two and reread part of "Happy for No Reason" to get recentered more. I tried to talk to a friend of 25 years just yesterday when I was needing moral support.....she just does not get the particular grief that surfaces again and again....she said, "Oh, I thought you were OVER that!".....others share their particular life challenges with me, as friends often do, but when I bring up my BIG loss....they just look at me blankly....say something like, "Well you can't fix it if you can't communicate"....and then something about how great their communication is with their children and that they would "Never do that". God help me, I did not understand this thing before it happened to me.....but I only knew of one in-law relative that I had never met that had done this to my MIL before I met my husband. MIL never mentioned it.....so I coldly asked her once if it did not bother her....and she said that she must have been a terrible mother. My husband just sat there and said NOTHING to his mom! Boy, did I ever tell him when we were alone.....now BOTH of us tell her how much she is appreciated at every opportunity.....and how grateful I am that she raised such a nice man...(needing some proding now and then however.) :)
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Just wondering how you are doing.....hope all is well. Donna
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How awful and humiliating that your daughter filed a personal protection order against you! It is as if their perception is WAY out of sync with reality and they are unable to settle anything with us.....they make it worse and overreact to the slightest communications or attempts to reconcile......It is so hard for me to recognize this person that is my daughter as she has changed so much.....and gets support from her peers to do this. It is as if she is totally brainwashed and there is no reasoning with her....what is happening to our society? Hugs, Donna
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