Feeling a little stronger
August 9, 2009 10:05am
I have been given a sense of peace about things that had me in a knot for quite a while. It couldn't have come at …
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blessedmom1 
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I love the Lord, I'm a mom of 2 wonderful boys ages 19 and 18, I lost my husband last year to lung cancer. We Thought we had about a year but he died after only 3 1/2 months. We stayed so busy with doctors and treatments (palliative) that we didn't prepare for him leaving us so soon. We would have been married 20 years. My 18 year old son is Autistic. He is a senior this year. He is very computer smart.
I love the Lord, I'm a mom of 2 wonderful boys ages 19 and 18, I lost my husband last year to lung cancer. We Thought we had about a year but he died after only 3 1/2 months. We stayed so busy with doctors and treatments (palliative) that we didn't prepare for him leaving us so soon. We would have been married 20 years. My 18 year old son is Autistic. He is a senior this year. He is very computer smart.
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I sooooo know what you mean! I'm a legal secretary, not a carpenter, pool cleaner, car mechanic, lawn care guy, etc., etc., etc. But sometimes I and my boys have surprised ourselves with the things we HAVE been able to do. It's part of our redefining ourselves and at the same time continuing their father's legacy. It's a strange process, isn't it? I hope you are having a good day. Much Love and Hugs, Martha
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Dedi,thinking of you. Love,Jeanna
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Hi there, thanks for your hug. Getting my autistic son to talk about his dad, or more specifically about how he felt about his dad's death, was very difficult. He wouldn't talk to me about it because he was trying to protect me (in his mind). He received counseling through school and that was where he felt most comfortable at first. It's been a long hard road because his progress through it has been in bursts. I remember at 6 months after Cliff's death he finally cried and let me hold him and comfort him. I talk to both my sons about their dad - my older son has Asperger's and also was not ready to be 'man of the house' so I understand what you're up against. My younger son had a hard time accepting my new relationship at first - they don't understand relationships, do they? He was angry at me for a long time. I kept talking to him, and his brother talked to him, and finally I convinced him to talk with my fiance and ask him anything he wanted to. He did, and they got on just great, and now he's okay with it all. (My older son had accepted my relationship much more readily.) The main thing seems to be to keep trying to talk with them, even when they roll their eyes at you and get impatient. I've been direct with them - they know I loved their father very much, that he loved them, that it's been awful, but also that my fiance and I make each other happy and we love each other, and that we are both going to be there for them. When they are on the spectrum, you can't be too subtle sometimes. My sons and I have gotten much closer through this nightmare process, and they are closer to each other too now, but it's been so hard. How are you holding up? Love and Hugs, Martha
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I lost my husband Sept. 28th, 2008 from lung cancer that had spread to his brain. We thought we had about a year, but he died only 3 1/2 months after diagnosis. We stayed so busy with doctors, radiation treatments (to lessen his symptoms), and fighting the complications of the treatments, that we didn't do anything fun and I never prepared for him leaving me so soon. I have a lot of feelings that I don't know how to deal with.
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My 17 year old son was diagnosed with Autism at age 3. He is fairly high functioning and we are entering the world of job searches and possibly college. I would like to learn from others experiences how to better help him with this phase of his maturity.
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- "1-2-3 magic." My other son was diagnosed with ADDHD at the same time Trevor was diagnosed with Autism. I went to a seminar to help him and found it did work for Trevor and not for my other son
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- Not so much brushing but back massage when Trevor would get overwelmed seemed to help calm him tremendously.
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- Trevor picked up on this way of communicating quickly and progressed to speaking
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