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  • About Me

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    chocl8angel

    Female, Married
    ZAF
    Member since April 8

    • About Me

      After years of not realising the abuse, i told my husband how i'm becoming more outspoken because he bullies me and he belittles me and disrepects me in front of people.Then i had to keep quiet and he told me how i made him feel like crap by doing so, he said that the stuff that i need to stand up for myself for is not important, (he gives me silent treatment and made like i didn' t exist). We don't have any kids, I work, he doesn't. I've stopped looking for work for him and I'm letting go, trying to use that energy getting upset over him and trying to make him happy all the time to focus and take care of me.

      After years of not realising the abuse, i told my husband how i'm becoming more outspoken because he bullies me and he belittles me and disrepects me in front of people.Then i had to keep quiet and he told me how i made him feel like crap by doing so, he said that the stuff that i need to stand up for myself for is not important, (he gives me silent treatment and made like i didn' t exist). We don't have any kids, I work, he doesn't. I've stopped looking for work for him and I'm letting go, trying

    • Website

      http://earthonlife.blogspot.com/

    • Interests

      Reading, sketching, arts and crafts, dancing

      Reading, sketching, arts and crafts, dancing

  • Recent Activity

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    • 4 hugs given, 2 discussion posts

    Monday

  • Journal

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    • Pain

      Mood August 13, 2009 8:34am

      Oh no...

      I hope I didn't rupture a cyst on my ovary/ies...and if I did should I go the the  emergency room?

      my af was supposed to end …

    • Caught between a rock and a hard place

      Mood July 16, 2009 10:15am

      I haven't been on here for a while...

      We have been trying to working things out...went to counseling he went on his own too...

      My friends still see …

    • Perhaps...

      Mood April 21, 2009 11:37am

      I am going on leave soon and I am thinking of going somewhere by  myself for a few days. I tend to feel guilty if when he has his 'ok' …

    • sigh

      Mood April 16, 2009 10:55am

       

      I'm just tired of everything, not in the mood to go home from work.

      I can't concentrate at work, but glad I'll be able to take off …

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    • Hug

      From Pennyphone August 13

      random act of kindness...pass it on!

    • Hug

      From jalynna July 20

      Thank you, I will. Big HUGS!!!

    • Hug

      From jalynna July 19

      You are not wrong in that situation. I did it. I got tired of his being all lovey dovey one time and then treating me like crap another time. I was abused mentally and physically. I got smart and did the one thing no one expected, not even him. I left. And I left for good because he was never going to change. We tried getting help for our marriage but he just kept it up doing the worst to me. Right now, you have a chance, if you don't have any children, get out. Get out now and leave. Don't turn back because it will only be worse and he will never change. Please, go to a friend you can trust or a family member you can trust. Or just do what I did and secretly get another place, and apartment, something you can afford. Hide the receipt at work so he won't ever find it. Save up money and hide it, don't hide it at home. Then when the time is right and you have money to make it til your next check, and he leaves the house and is gonna be gone for a while, leave. Just pack up what you can and leave. Don't worry about furniture or anything. You can build it back up, those little things are not worth your life. But you have to make sure that you cannot be tracked. If you have a cell phone, change the number immediately when you leave. Any accounts in your name and he knows about, change them. I've been there, I did it, and I believe you can too. When you leave, run til you get to your safe place, then lets start the healing process. So if you ever need a friend to talk or vent to, a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen, please feel free to give me a shout. I will try to help you through it all I can. Big HUGS, be safe and stay strong.

    • I’m With You

      From vonniedisley July 16

      I would be honoured to be your friend!! here any time..Just get in touch!! Hugs!

    • Hug

      From wakinyantechate28 May 25

      How are things going for you?

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  • Support Groups

    • Close Physical & Emotional Abuse

      After years of not realising the abuse, i told my husband how i'm becoming more outspoken because he bullies me and he belittles me and disrepects me in front of people.Then i had to keep quiet and he told me how i made him feel like crap by doing so,he said that the stuff that i need to stand up for myself for is not important,(he gives me silent treatment and made like i didn' t exist)If anyone wants to follow, I post updates on my 'venting' blog http://earthonlife.blogspot.com/

      Treatments

      Abuse Counseling Somewhat Helpful
      Talking Working / Worked
    • Close Endometriosis

      I think I might have endometriosis.

    • Open Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)

      I have PCOS.

      Treatments

      Metformin Somewhat Helpful
      Made me feel sick...
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