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rjohns41 
6:41pm, May 7, 2009
So friday i had my lap and at this point Im just not sure about alot of stuff. I am having second thoughts about my doctor. I feel horrible saying this bc I liked him so much. He is also supposed to be a specialist so i feel like i should trust him. After the surgery I felt violated. First the doc was over half an hour late. I had been waiting since 5 am and he was late! WTF?!?! I also think the doc lied to me about what was going to be done. Originially, he told me that this would be major surgery, my endo was going to be in the last stages, that he was going to remove the uterosacral ligament, tact up my cervix, and more doom and gloom. THen at the pre op appt he said it would be minor surgery that he would remove the ligament and the endo and that he still thought it would be in the last stages.
None of this actually happened during surgery. I was only in surgery for like half an hour. He cut the ligament and cauterized it (but did not remove, i dont understand, now it is just hanging out but not actually doing anything...). He also did not remove any endo according to my parents. I mean WTF!!?!?! He claims that my endo is only in stage two ( after he specifically told me that bc of my displaced cervix it would be in the last stages). He supposedly also told my parents that he never told me that the endo would be in the last stages. SO now my parents think I lied about the situation or at least exaggerrated. I would have never had this surgery if I knew that the endo was not going to be removed at the same time. Plus i have endo somewhere that he can not operate. I am so confused. I have my post op appt this friday.
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Well ask him all those questions at post op. I am so sorry this happend! If he lies again or dodges the questions find a new doc! I've been seeing mine almost 6 years and at times have gotten frustrated enough to change Drs but I've found that when he isn't as busy with thousands of patients, he is much kinder and takes time to listen to me and also, and this could be true and not in my head, now that I'm trying for a baby he also seems to want to spend more time with me. He's a fertility specialist, so I guess me just being sick and having surgeries wasn't his cup of tea, now that I want to talk fertility and babies, he seems to be more kind! Harmph!
Anyway, you can get a 2nd opinion! Becuase mine is only Stage 1 supposedly and they have always removed mine! And, I had a lot of it to remove even at that stage. But you may be different. I would definitely ask him WHY the part that he says is in-operable is that way- I have a cyst on my Left ovary for ex. that is "in-operable" because its surrounded by a bundle of nerves and he was afraid that would be too risky.
I would say, prepare a list of questions for him, be assertive when asking them when you go back for your post op. At the very least he should have pictures or something to be able to go over with you! Sheesh! And, try not to worry about the parents, people can be heartless! **HUGS** I'm sorry this happend to you!
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