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steph628 
2:25pm, October 1, 2009
I am sad today. I just want to cry. I'm tired of feeling this way. I learned last night that my stbx is not only taking my daughter around the girlfriend everytime he has their visitations but now she is with him when he picked her up from daycare and when he dropped her off last night. THey are looking for a house so all 5 of them can live together. My daughter also said last night that daddy gave her a diamond ring and they are going to be married. I knew he would do this but it hurts so much. How can I just be replaced? FOr some reason my daughter wants to have a stepmom and a new family. All of this hurts so badly. I know I deserve better than this but how do you replace your wife and family in an instant. I know nothing will be different in this "new family atomsphere" It's just a different woman living my life. I know I won't have to deal with his drinking, spending habits, debt, selfishness, lack of intrest in me. I deserve so much better, a man that loves me for me and my daughter. I just can't believe I have to go through this and the pain that comes with it. I just want to be loved and happy again. I feel lost and alone. It hurts that he is already with someone new not that it will last. I know now is not the time to find a new partner. I miss being held and loved. I miss the friend I had in him. I miss the family. I want my life to be better and happier.
Thank you to all my DS friends. YOu all make this a better place and my support from each of you helps so much.
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Sorry Steph ... I'm sure this is so hard to hear from your little one. She just sees their fantasy life and from a child's standpoint, their life probably looks perfect. We all know there is no such thing as a perfect relationship though. Your time will come and you will find the one that will love you as you love them.
gocolts
I am sorry Steph........I know this is very very hard on you. I can't write more now, as the wife is around and the kids are running around. I don't want wife to know that I am on DS, for the reasons I mentioned before. Hopefully your daughter is with you this weekend. Try to enjoy the July 4th !
Try to smile through it all, like you encourage me to. I will write to you over the weekend, and will speak. We are all with you. I am thinking of you. Speak soon.
Al
Orient1
Hey Steph,
I am sorry for what you are feeling right now. It is natural that you feel this way - we all do. We all want to love and be loved again by the right person. The relatioship and the fantasyh that your stbx and the other woman are going through will not last - it is not built on a solid foundation. Your were the foundation of this marriage - holding together and trying to make it work. You deserve all the credit. Do not blame yourself for anything. You will find happiness. I pray for you, myself, and all my other friends here to find happiness and love in our lives.
Orient1