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steph628 
2:25pm, October 1, 2009
So we came to an agreement and he is admitting to adultery. I just need the written approval of my mortgage loan modification and my divorce will be final. Should this not come thru then We will duke out me keeping the house for 3 yrs and him contributing to it.
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I just received his answers to my interrogratories... There are so many lies in them...
He claims that all went wrong in our marriage because of me. That I made him so misserable, so he drank and spent money and avoided me to find happiness. Claims his friends didn't come around because of me either. Claims I'm keeping and always have kept all financial items from him... Dude you can get the information if your name is on it. What adult doesn't know that? Anyone who has a brain can figure that out. Claims that I wouldn't communicate with him, he had no trust in me, that I'm this negative person and that nothing was ever good enough for me. This was all him and his way. He used to get so mad when I'd tell him we couldn't afford something or to do something. I didn't trust him because he kissed another woman who was staying with us for a while prior to our daughter being born. I really wish this was all over with and he was totally out of my life. I never thought he would be this nasty towards me or our relationship... Total disrepect.
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Just last week while cleaning out a closet, I came upon all my legal files for my divorce. When I starting going through that file, the first thing on top was my X's Answers to Interrogatories and, of course, I had to skim them. BUT THIS TIME I LAUGHED OUT LOUD! He was so bull of bull and sounded like a total, whining wimp! Said that I didn't "appreciate" him; wasn't "supportive" of him; and YOU WILL LOVE THIS -- implied that all I did was lie on the couch watching Oprah all day while he was out there earning a living. That really got me going -- as I was the one with the bad back and calloused hands from doing EVERYTHING on this 7-acre farm while he worked about 3 days a week and played golf the rest of the time.
Steph, your stbx is an ass and these Interrogatories really don't mean much as far as the law is concerned. You must EXPECT HIM TO BE NASTY because that's how they act when they find themselves backed into a corner -- which is EXACTLY WHERE THEY BELONG when they cheat!
And TOTAL DISRESPECT is just indicative of the kind of man he is. My X NEVER respected me, not as a person or as his wife. I couldn't really see it until I decided to divorce the bastard. Don't take any of this personally...just remember: IT'S ALL ABOUT HIM...his shortcomings and his lack of commitment. YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTER! And you will get it! Just keep plugging away.
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It's called projection. He projected his actions on to you so he doesn't have to look at what he did wrong. He tried to make you look like the bad guy so he could think of himself as this poor mistreated hard working husband.
I swear I think they all do that. The sad thing is they actually believe that.
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1st court date set (summary hearing) 9/21/09. Have to mediate before 10/20/09 (daughter's birthday) for joy!
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