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economygrill 
7:00am, September 30, 2009
My sister and I hadn't been home long when the phone rang. It was my stepfather, saying that my mom was refusing to give him a towel, because he took too many showers (not true). She told him she didn't want him there, and that he had to leave! He gave the phone to my mom, and my sister tried to explain to her that he was her husband, and had been for 24 years. My mom asked what his name was, and she replied "Bill." My sister explained that he lived there, and that he helped her. My mom denied that he did anything for her. When she handed the phone back to Bill, she told him that it was "one of her daughters."
Since my stepfather was getting ready to go to a doctor's appointment, we drove back over to my mom's house so that she wouldn't be left alone.
When we got there, Mom was still in her robe, sitting in front of the tv as if nothing had ever happened!
There were beginning to be breaks in the clouds, and it looked like the rain showers that had been hanging around all day were finally moving away. My sister asked my mom if she wanted to take a walk, and thankfully, she did. After the blood clots in her lungs, my mom is supposed to walk and exercise daily. This would give me some time alone to attempt to clean her bathroom. I started the process of clearing the counter around her sink, and pitching stuff as I could. The sink was filthy, and there were piles of clothes in the shower stall, which looked like she had tried to rinse out. Unfortunately, my mom and sister didn't walk long, and I wasn't able to finish the job.
Before leaving, my sister and I went into the kitchen. There was food left out on the counter, stacks of dirty dishes, and a compost bucket swarming with fruit flies. A litter box sat in a corner nearby. My sister told me that the last time she cleaned, she found a jar of dead mice, waiting for a "proper" burial in the backyard.
As we hugged and said "goodbye" to my mom, I was beginning to process the sad feeling that my mom was leaving us, and that someday soon she wouldn't recognize us.
More later........
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Hi dear I am sorry you are going through this. I do care I have been on holiday outings and guilty of not coming on to check on you my friend, I do appollogise. I pray you stay strong at this time. love and hugs, Jenny x
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I AM SORRY it must be so hard, thinking of you my lovely friend. XxxxxX
BeautifulReject
Mmmm. My mom is headed in a similar direction- but it is because of smoking- she almost died twice, and at one point her body was only taking in carbon monoxide from the cigarettes, she stopped smoking for the length of time she was in the hospital- but started up again, and hid it until naturally she was caught going to the bathroom constantly. I cannot live in the small texas town where my parents live, and my sister, who is a nurse is about 45 minutes away, so most of this falls on her shoulders, which she brings up every time i correspond with her- and she I guess because there is water on her brain from the cigarettes or something is beginning to forget things all the time, and last time I was in Texas, my father was in a similar space. They also cannot take care of themselves anymore- and it is very sad, when I visit all I do is try to clean the house, and mow the lawn, and do all the things that they cannot- the situation you are in is one that I dread and am scared of every time I think, or talk to my parents. They're stubborn and set in their ways- and just don't seem to understand- why salt or fried food is bad for them. They too think that if they drink those damn ensure drinks they're doing what the can- and I know that yeah, ensure us good- but it is only start- they need help that I cannot give them. I feel for you and what your going through- wish I could help more- I saw follow your gut- your role in your parent's life is changing from child to parent. It's time for you and your sister to do what you guys think it is best for them
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