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  DorothyC (08/14/09)

  This is a double hug and yes I do believe what you are going through is worse than a sudden death. My husband died when he was 52 and I was 48 and I thought at the time that this was the absolute worst thing that could ever happen to me. But I was wrong, after seeing what my mother has become and what I become trying to take care of her 24/7 and eventually putting her in a NH, that would have been far worse to have seen my husband in the shape she is in. I am so very very sorry and I know this is so hard for you, Mom asked all of her children years ago to promise not to put her in a nursing home but I simply could not manage her physically. It had to be done and it was/is very very difficult. Please know in time you will be able to remember the good times with peace and joy but it will take a long time and I am not sure all the guilt ever goes away. Please feel better.
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  silentprayer (08/14/09)

  Deis, I am so sorry for what you are going through.! Thank You for sharing about having to put your husband in a care center. Very touching.! Your daughters are right. They need their mom back. You have been married as long as my parents have. I hope you hold on to the beautiful memories. Your husband would want you to. You are making the best choice for him.! I remember driving my grandmother to the nursing home. She thought we were going for a ride. After the nurses took her down the hall to eat. I sat in her new room and cried my eyes out. The nurses really know how to handle each and every situation. They will take good care of you husband. Thanks again for sharing.
  God Bless you and your family
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  weneedhelp (08/14/09)

  I don't profess to know how you feel, but I am sure that someday I will know exactly....just remember that if he could, your husband would tell you that he understands that the tough decisions you are making are out of love and respect for him and the rest of your family.
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  weneedhelp (08/11/09)
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  marymargaret (04/13/09)

  my mom wanted me to start life with 2 pluses..my names..i used to despise my name, now I love to wear it out loud..happy day to you, friend
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  marymargaret (04/12/09)

  Take good gentle care of yourself, caring lady...take time to cheer for you!! smile often and laugh alot...mary
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  samirish (03/24/09)