I guess you could even say that Ive used them as a crutch. Ive always gotten alot of love and affection from my friends and family, from everyone surrounding me...and I credit that, mostly, to my looks. But now, living in this new place, I feel so unsure and shakey in my place right now that I feel that I have lost all of my confidence...I find myself thinking twice when I choose a pair of heels, that I second guess my outfit when I look in the mirror by the front door before I go out...I dont do my hair, I just throw it into a pony tail because I cant seem to be happy with anything my hair does lately. Just all of these little things, and tons more, are building up and theyre making me second guess every little thing that I do and say. I dont feel comfortable with the way I walk or talk or my facial expressions. I used to be so confident and carefree, I knew I was attractive and I felt absuloutely gorgeous, and now I just want to hide under my covers so the world cant see my face. I really dont know how to deal for a while here, and I know that if I dont get better then its only going to get worse but I really have no clue how to take that first step.
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Hi, just wanted to tell you I feel exactly how you feel! I used to get made fun of when I was younger because I definitely went through that "awkward phase" where I was incredibly unattractive... and then during high school people decided I was pretty and it was new and exciting and I felt good about myself. And people were finally being friendlier towards me. But it started to feel scary after a while, like, I felt since I hadn't been that way forever that it was something impermanent and could be taken away from me at any minute. I wake up in the mornings and look at myself in the mirror and think, "My God, I don't know how I did it, but I've gotten uglier since yesterday." And then I feel horrible. I feel like my looks matter to people more than anything else, and like it's all I really have going for me. If I lose it, then I'll have nothing else left. Nobody will want anything to do with me anymore.
Anyway, yeah, just letting you know you're not alone in this.
kokahum
Whoops, typo, I meant "I know exactly how you feel." Oh well.
kokahum