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SpringChikn 
8:40pm, September 23, 2009
Got a letter from my 91-year-old mother today. She still lives alone,, some distance away. I had asked family members who live near her not to tell Mom I had lung cancer. My older sister died less than a year after her diagnosis, but by the time she'd received an accurate dx, i.e., that it wasn't sciatica, or migraines, her cancer had metastacised to her bone and brain.
Well, you've probably guessed the rest. It just never works to lie to your mother, even by omission, does it? She knows, and now I'm wondering how much she knows and how much I'm going to have to tell her.
One more thing to figure out.
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My mother died last year at age 92. I used to worry about her knowing things that would upset her, but finally realized that in her 92 years she had seen it all and dealt with it! Most of her friends were gone, she was the only remaining child of 8, her husband had died 25 years before, and she had developed strengths that I can only hope I have when I need them. She was able to handle and deal with anything! I suspect your mom is similar.
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